Stress from family

Stop talking wedding talk to them

Are you paying for your own wedding? If your parents are paying, get used to the fact that they will likely want some input. If no one else is paying, learn to say " Thanks for the suggestion, we'll keep it in mind when we make our decision" , then do what you want.

Im having tons of stress from mine and it's not just wedding stuff. I'm learning how to avoid talking to them. It's rough but sometimes you have to cut out the toxicity.

Yes we are paying for everything. Thanks everyone , it is hard I love my family, it just sucks how many opinions everyone has , right down to the month we are getting married

Yes I started getting opinions from everyone. Once they realized I didn't have a problem saying "No" they stopped...starting with my Mother. I'm having my wedding/reception at a restaurant with a dinner party type reception for 70. Just learn to be confident in what you want and don't want. Good Luck.

My mother is the worst! I just tell her no & were not doing that. No one else in my family really says anything.

Op, totally feel your pain!

If you are grown up enough to get married, then you are grown up enough to deal with family members and their opinions. Take a step back and listen to them with an open mind to serif they are truly trying to give you some good advice or if they're just complaining or offering their opinion. If they're truly trying to give you some good advice, listen. Thank them for their opinion but politely and firmly state that you and your fiancé are handling things just fine and are doing Things in a way that suits the both of you.

To give you some perspective, my mom keeps making comments about us not getting married by a priest or in a church, even though FH and I are agnostic. I've listened to her, acknowledged her feelings, and have proceeded to continue down the path of having a family friend marry us. Don't get caught up infamily drama and stress!

Keep calm. With my parents I know they're concerned about choices my FH and I make because they want us to save our money and not go crazy... which we totally agree with... but they get overly paranoid sometimes. I have found that getting upset or even ignoring them makes me seem immature to them and escalates their level of concern. So I do acknowledge them and assure them that my FH and I are making decisions based on what will allow us to best save for our future family. A lot of times I've found that acknowledging them at least helps them calm down. I'm sure I will encounter many more stressful situations as I plan this next year, but I'm just going to try and keep a level head and not snap. In the end it's our day and our way.

Stop talking to them about the wedding. I had this issue starting off but now they realize no one makes a decision but me and FH.

Our families have so far been fairly supportive My mom is known to be passive aggressive with me any way so ignoring the few negative things she has said (which for her haven't been that bad) is the norm.

Not so much my family, but his, yes. I've resorted to just ignoring the unsolicited advice and when they ask questions I either answer "I'm not sure" or "oh, let's not talk about me, what about you? How's everything?". I know they want to be involved and what not, but they make everything so much harder than it should be. I deal with it by not letting it stress me out any more. I don't address it, I don't engage, and I just smile and nod a lot. If you don't give it much importance, then it's not likely to stress you as much. Good luck!

Yes! Not sure how I haven't erupted yet.

I decided to have my wedding near my family which is in IL. My FH family is not happy about this and everyone but his main family his mom and step dad, dad and step mom, and moms parents are coming from his side. We have them over a year to get ready for it and every holiday or birthday we had to hear about how we are not doing the wedding in Iowa. But I felt hurt by this because I know I will live in Iowa for the rest of my life and I honestly did not think it would be a big deal but you have to look past everyone and think of how magical your day is going to be for you and what you want on your wedding day. I made a lot of things for my wedding to keep my mind off everyone else. And expressed how I felt to my fiance about everything which made me feel better.

Praying for peace and harmony and wisdom to handle all the wedding planning