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Stress about expenses...

Marissa, on November 25, 2019 at 12:34 AM Posted in Planning 0 8

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We’ve all been here. I don’t know why it’s taken me this long to stress about how much everything costs. I’ve already cut the guest list as much as I think I can and I’m soon going to conference with our photographer for a smaller custom package.

Food is just so expensive, it’s actually crazy. Our reception venue only allows a choice from 5 caterers and I picked the most affordable one. But it’s still going to be in the thousands. I also cut out videography and photo booth to bring down the total (though I’m hoping I can squeeze some sort of photo booth alternative in).
Sorry, just a vent from an exhausted full time working college student trying to pay for everything!😱 Any tips on dealing with the stress?

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Latest activity by Lauren, on November 25, 2019 at 10:13 PM

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Amber · on November 25, 2019 at 12:49 AM
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Sorry, you're so stressed but I can say this you're not alone girl. Yea, I absolutely hate venues that only work with certain vendors and how you can only use them. It's because that venue gets a kickback with every vendor they use. It's mess up I think because most of the catering is way out of your budget from the get go and they don't ever have any non expensive catering.
Catering is expensive anyways I haven't booked ours yet though. I'm already dreading it😭
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Just Said Yes November 2019
Marilyn · on November 25, 2019 at 12:57 AM
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I've been there. My husband and I paid for most of our wedding ourselves too. It was very stressful and we did not want to pay anything with our credit cards. I remember it was about 50 days left until the wedding and we still had not figured out how to pay for catering(our catering was in the thousands as well. Catering company did not require any deposit and total would be charged on the day of the wedding). But what helped me was continuing to tell myself that the wedding stress will be over and no matter what I am feeling or stressing about the wedding day is going to come and I have to make the best of it and also expect the worst that can happen. I am also a full time college student. We both work full time and ALL of our money went towards paying for wedding vendors. Some things we did was cut back on doing things we love to do like going out to shop, eating out a lot and my everyday morning lattes from Starbucks. I still can't believe we made it work but it was an amazing day that I will always remember and so will you! One thing that helped me was my Bridal Shower, I did not have a big registry so I got mostly checks, cash and gift cards which helped a lot towards the wedding expenses. Also if its an option, talk to your family about it. You'd be surprised who's willing to help out.
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Marcia · on November 25, 2019 at 6:34 AM
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Also, you could ask for gift cards for Christmas. They can help with other expenses and free up some money for wedding stuff.
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Devoted December 2019
Samantha · on November 25, 2019 at 6:44 AM
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It is crazy how much weddings cost, even if you scale everything down! Take a deep breath and closely look at your finances and make a budget ( you don’t realize how much much goes towards little purchases; for example, coffee, pack of gum at the store etc). There are a lot of seasonal holiday jobs.. something to consider to make some extra money but will be over once you start spring semester
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Amber · on November 25, 2019 at 6:51 AM
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Last Christmas I asked for gift cards to Hobby lobby and Michael's for wedding stuff. It's been very helpful with my planning.

I was going to go the photo booth route till I realized I spent all that money on a photographer to take pictures that a photo booth would just be a waste of money.
Try on Pinterest the have a lot of diy photo booth ideas. You can also rent one too. Here in Cincinnati a lot of the DJ vendors are starting to offer a photo booth along with their DJ packages.
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Legend June 2019
Melle · on November 25, 2019 at 12:12 PM
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find a side job that goes towards your wedding expenses. That's what my husband and I did. But I'd also say cut back on everything unnecessary e.g. favors and decor. And borrow whatever you can that you won't need to buy yourself.
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Savvy October 2020
Emily · on November 25, 2019 at 1:15 PM
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I feel your pain so hard right now... My fiance and I just decided to tell ourselves to stop stressing because it's only temporary, and the end result will be amazing! Just sit back for a second, breathe, and remind yourself why you're doing it!
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Lauren · on November 25, 2019 at 10:13 PM
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I am in the same boat and totally understand! I compartmentalize, stress out for a bit and then focus on something else. Only way to get stuff done for me! It will all work out but remember to take care of yourself because it is stressful!
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