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Strange start

Holly, on March 9, 2020 at 11:53 PM Posted in Planning 0 8
My FH just got off the phone with his mom. She said she 'wasnt coming to the wedding because it's a young persons thing'. I'm staying optimistic and realize that Vegas is not everyones cup of tea which is why we are throwing another reception in our home state after we return.I am super understanding about life. He calls his sister to ask a question about something unrelated and ends up asking about her attendance with her daughter. She tells him she may not come because she 'may not be able to get off work'. Again, I understand! My wedding is absolutely not the most important thing in the world. She was there when he proposed in December of 2018 and generally aware of things involving the wedding. All the understanding aside, I'm still a bit sad for him since the two closest people to him maybe won't/aren't showing. Advice or positivity please. Has anyone ever dealt with this? Also I apologize if I've left out anything important.

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Latest activity by Holly, on March 10, 2020 at 10:33 AM
  • Rebelle Fleur
    Master July 2021
    Rebelle Fleur ·
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    With his mother you could call her and talk to her and let her know how important it would be for her to be there and how hurt he is.
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    Holly ·
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    I am not close to either of them and I'm still unsure of the dynamics of their relationships-even after 5 years. It would be misplaced for me to call and try to explain because without a deeper understanding, it would feel like I was just upsetting the apple cart...and FH may feel like I'm stepping in his toes. I will discuss it further with him.
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    Willow ·
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    It's possible they see your Vegas wedding as more of an elopement thing, since you're having a reception back home
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    Holly ·
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    I hadn't considered that. Thank you!
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  • Dierdra
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    Dierdra ·
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    Could you skype the wedding? So he can see them the day of even if they won't be there?

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    Holly ·
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    It's a very real possibility. It will be live streamed so, same thing kinda. I will have him mention it to them to see if they'd go for that in the comfort of their own homes sans travel costs! Thanks so much!
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    Ingrid ·
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    I'm feeling the same way about my FH's mom. We decided to have a destination wedding and gave everyone over 2 years to plan and she has made no plans to attend just because she doesn't want to. I'm heartbroken for him because she's his only living parent. He said he expected that she wouldn't and I'm having a hard time understanding how she would miss her last son getting married.
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    Holly ·
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    I'm sorry to hear that. Its hard because we care so much for these people. It definitely stings when it feels blown off as though its no more important than a trip to the dentist.
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