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Just Said Yes April 2020

Strange and sticky situation

Unicorn, on January 23, 2020 at 1:24 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 16

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I have a girl in our wedding that did a secret shop and is already married. She's still pretending to be getting married , coming to my dress fitting to basically cause problems and complain about her fake wedding to the staff, and to take any type of attention away from me . SHE TOLD THEM SHE'S GETTING MARRIED APRIL 5!!!! A day after our wedding .
I didn't say anything while we were there before. Then she made a smart comment about our cake being made with milk and us not having champagne. I told her that if someone has a problem they don't have to eat our cake, AND. . . We will be serving alcohol after the reception to people we're close with. Well, I told her to pick a earthy colored dress;she picked a full sequin dress in a red and gold. Nothing else would do for her, SO I BOUGHT IT.Fyi it doesn't fit, she wouldn't go try anything on. She wants me to buy her real gold for jewelry. She told me my dress is ugly... What do I do? I feel guilty for being upset! I just want my bridal party to be happy, but I also want them to be kind and not ruin our entire wedding. I JUST WANT A BEAUTIFUL DAY.💔

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Latest activity by Daniel, on January 24, 2020 at 7:23 PM

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Vannesa · on January 23, 2020 at 1:30 PM
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Tell her she doesn't need to be in the wedding. She's just going to try and ruin your day.
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John Smith · on January 23, 2020 at 1:31 PM
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Uhm...I'd kick her out with zero guilt. You're being a lot nicer to her than she deserves
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Unicorn · on January 23, 2020 at 1:33 PM
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Sadly, ladies it may come to that. It is so strange. I never could have imagined something so strange!
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VIP May 2020
Destiny · on January 23, 2020 at 1:36 PM
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Fire her fire her fire her! Tbh she wouldny even be welcomed as a guest
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Chrysta · on January 23, 2020 at 1:42 PM
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Unfortunately, I agree with pp. Your wedding party is supposed to be those closest to you, standing up with you to honor you, your friendship and your relationship. It doesn’t sound like this person is honoring (or even giving basic level respect!) to you or your marriage at all.
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Daniel · on January 23, 2020 at 1:49 PM
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If it was me I would just uninvited her. If she is causing that big of deal now it is only going get worse. Call her on her game and ask her if you are in her wedding party the next day and say you feel it is important to support one another and you will delay honeymoon for her
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Cyndy · on January 23, 2020 at 1:54 PM
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Wow! If it were me she would be fine already and not just from the wedding party, but from my life. I wouldn’t want all that craziness and drama around me and certainly not on my wedding day.
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Sierra · on January 23, 2020 at 1:56 PM
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May I ask why she was in your party to begin with? It doesn't sound like you like her, aside from all her behavior.
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Kawanda · on January 23, 2020 at 1:58 PM
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Hell no. Kick her out. She needs a moment!!!
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Kristen · on January 23, 2020 at 2:00 PM
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I do not think that is someone you would want to have as a friend as she seems toxic. I would tell her that due to how she has been you are removing her from the bridal party and the wedding. Honestly, she seems like she has some issues she needs to work out.
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Sherry · on January 23, 2020 at 2:06 PM
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She would not be invited to my wedding must less in it. If she acts like this now, she will most likely act like this at your wedding. She is showing you her true colors.
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Jessica · on January 23, 2020 at 3:24 PM
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You don't need all of that unnecessary drama! This is your day and your time to enjoy. If anyone or anything is stepping on that you need to let them go. As far as the negative comments or dislike for your choices, tell her that she can do what she wants on her "wedding day."
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Deirdre · on January 23, 2020 at 4:28 PM
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A lot of people are saying to kick her out of her wedding party, but it's not just that. I think for you it is ending this friendship. I'm not sure how this person got into your life, or why she is still in your life, but she sounds awful and it's time for you to end the friendship and not have her in your wedding. You will probably lose the money on the dress you bought her, but I think that's worth it to get her out of your life for good.
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Unicorn · on January 24, 2020 at 6:42 PM
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You may have given me a very good direction to go in. 👍👍
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Unicorn · on January 24, 2020 at 6:52 PM
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Her husband runs a social group we belong to. My FH mentioned fleetingly I could ask her, and it would be very nice. She was perfectly fine, pushy ( but normal) until recently.
I am running through my head of how to deal with it. My Maid of honor and I were fitted today. This girl didn't show up despite saying she would be there . I heard from her tonight. My MOH looks so gorgeous ! ( Sorry to rant, but I'm so excited to get some sparkle and princessy stuff on her. She is a cowgirl through and through and my soul sister. Lol) . My moh, grandmother and I had a very nice time ( as much as possible for having pins stuck all over). It worked out that she didn't show up.
Now, to deal with this properly.
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Daniel · on January 24, 2020 at 7:23 PM
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Your welcome
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