Strained relationship and asile walks

Honestly that is up to you. Don’t feel pressured to have anyone do it.

I think you should walk with who ever has been the closest with you and makes you feel comfortable. It's your day, they need to get over it if they have a problem of who walks you down. If you still worry about it being a problem, I would say walk down alone because well you can, you are independent but I feel some might be more shocked with that then someone else walking you down.

But you do what's best for you and enjoy your wedding! 💜

I had a similar issue. My dad had an affair when I was 14 and broke up my family. He ended up marrying his affair woman and my mom and him fought in court years later regarding spousal support. It ended up ruining my relationship with my dad for three years we didn’t talk. Anyway we’ve been talking again for a few years now and he lives in Florida, I’m in California, so it’s hard to really get close. However as a little girl I always dreamed of him walking me down the aisle so I asked him to do it even though I knew it would hurt my moms feelings. But that’s what I wanted, that’s what I always pictured in my head. So I asked for me not for how it would make him feel. Sad thing for me is I just spoke with my dad yesterday and he doesn’t even know if he wants to come to my wedding because he says he can’t be in the same room as my mom. How childish right! So if he ends up not going I’ll have my mom do it. But truthfully that broke my heart. Moral of the story, do what is going to make you happy. This day is about you and your future husband. If it’s less stressful to you to walk by yourself, do it! Hope this helps!

View Quoted Comment I feel like you and I have the exact same story. The thing with me is I decided not to even let my dad know I'm getting married. He will say the same thing your dad will or he will say yes and not even show up. I just want to deal with that.

The decision is ultimately up to you, but I see nothing wrong with you walking down by yourself!

View Quoted Comment Sounds like you have the right idea! I kinda expected him to not come for money reasons or something but really, over drama that ended over 6 years ago. I’m looking at it now that if that hate means more to him then attending his own daughters wedding then that’s on him. Hope you have a wonderful and drama free wedding!

walk by yourself
I think everyone always feels like you have to be walked down by someone - You are the one making that journey to your significant other.
But if you do insist on someone walking you down, think about who has supported you.

Walk yourself down the aisle, proud that you are an independent woman, free now of the messes others have made. Or simply find a good friend who would like to do it. But forcing it with someone you do not want? Why? Marriage is a big step into the future, and you only want to bring with you the good and positive things, and put bad things to rest. You don't have to continually cater to someone who, however much you have love for him, has made a lifelong pattern of letting you down. Be escorted by someone you can count on, emotionally, trust, even if not family. Or walk alone, and be proud of the person you are bringing to your marriage.