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Stolen Theme!!

Myesha, on January 28, 2020 at 1:57 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 10

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Hello Ladies,

Am I being being to sensative? Now first let me start by saying I know it's been done before and I didn't come up with the idea of having a Disney insprised wedding. but here's what happened:
My fiance and I spent a weekend with his best friend J (friends since they were 17) and J's girlfriend at the time, A. A and I were getting along very well and hung out while the guys were gone. She even took me out with some of her friends and surprised me with a congratulations dessert after dinne. Back at her place she asked typical questions you'd ask any newly engaged person. "OMG how did he ask? , When will it be? , What's your theme?" With excitement I shared it all. Even showed her my pinterest board of how I wanted my theme (Beauty and the Beast) to come alive on my big day.
Fast forwad a month later J and A are now engaged. My fiance and I are beyond happy for them. We went to there engagement party over the weekend excited to celebrate with them. Only to walk in and see that it is Beauty and the Beast themed! With some of the things that I showed her on pinterest.

I am so disappointed that she would do that. I've even considered changing my theme now. I just feel like part of my joy for my theme has been taken away. Am I being to sensative about it? Has anyone else gone through this or something similar

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Latest activity by Myesha, on January 29, 2020 at 11:21 AM

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Kathryn · on January 28, 2020 at 2:03 PM
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Ugh, I feel you. It sucks because its flattering but also really hard to see your theme executed by someone else. Remember that Disney is a hugely popular theme, and you'll both probably end up going wildly different directions. Yes it's awful, but honestly she may have just really liked some of the things you showed her and wanted to use them too. If you're in love with your theme, don't change it. Maybe change parts so they're not as similar, maybe go for a different princess. And if you really love it, who cares? Some people may mumble about the similarities, but at the end of the day it's your day marrying the man of your dreams. So you do you, nevermind the naysayers.
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MrsD · on January 28, 2020 at 2:04 PM
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I wouldn't worry too much. I'm sure your guest list won't overlap and people won't notice. Disney seems SUPER common for engagement party & bridal shower & baby shower themes, I've seen it several times.
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Shaina · on January 28, 2020 at 2:05 PM
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DANG! Well. Disney is a common theme it seems. If you are stuck on Beauty and the Beast and just do different ideas. You have a good amount of time to change your theme if you really feel it will bother you.
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Erin · on January 28, 2020 at 2:06 PM
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I do understand why you’re irritated. And if you have mutual friends that can suck. There are so many ways to do beauty and the beast, and perhaps you can keep some of your original elements and find new things that you didn’t show her and maybe tweak the idea without scrapping it all together?
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Veronica · on January 28, 2020 at 3:20 PM
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I think Disney is a common theme. My brother's wedding was Beauty and the Beast themed. One of my friends had a Disney themed wedding. I know I've seen a few brides on here planning a Disney themed wedding. I do understand your frustrations because the day we got engaged we said we wanted our wedding to be in September. Within a few hours, my brother-in-law's wife decided they wanted to get married in September and she was at our engagement and heard us say we planned on getting married in September so we changed our date to July and then the only venue they liked was only available in August so I was really ticked that we went and booked a venue in July thinking they were getting married in September only to find out that wasn't the case. We had also told everyone our colors were going to be red and black. Within a few weeks, she also wanted to do red. We changed our colors to pick and gray. A few days prior to going bridesmaids dress shopping she changed her mind so we went back to having red and black as our colors. Throughout the planning process she kept asking my opinion on things so I would give her vague answers as she had already tried copying our colors and when we got married. She did programs very similar to ours which I wasn't thrilled out because we did infographic wedding programs which I thought were really unique and different only for her to do similar ones. My suggestion is don't share anything else with her about your wedding. If you are considered about doing Beauty and the Beast maybe you can mix in other Disney themed things. There are a ton of ideas on Pinterest for Disney themes. I would also making your wedding board on Pinterest private by changing it to keep board secret so that she or any friends you have in common with her will see it and possibly steal ideas from you.
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MOB So Cal · on January 28, 2020 at 3:27 PM
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I get that it's rude that friends did that, but at the same time ANYTHING Disney is super common among couples who do a wedding "theme." I just put "Beauty & the Beast" into the search bar on this forum and 1300+ threads came up.... I wouldn't share anything more with her, but I think you can do whatever you want to and not worry about what they do. Your guests will be happy to attend your wedding regardless of what other people do.
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Julie · on January 28, 2020 at 3:31 PM
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I get why you're annoyed. But I also agree with the pps here about how common Disney is (especially beauty and the beast and Cinderella) as a theme. The thing is though, I think if we lined up 10 couples who all had that theme, each wedding would still look really different. French provincial, gold, rose under glass, blue velvet, patterns of fine china, etc. There are a ton of gorgeous elements!
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Michelle · on January 28, 2020 at 10:34 PM
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Yeah I'd be pissed too smh but don't worry, I know the guys are in the same circle but you two aren't. People at your wedding won't be at their wedding right? And even if they are I'm pretty sure you've shared your vision with all your friends so they know it's your idea and that you've been planning it. Deep downnnnnn inside she knows it wasn't her idea and the people who know her probably looked at it as yeah it's cute but I know this isn't you.

Someone on here sent me a request and completely stole my whole bio...like used the same exact words WORD FOR WORD...just changed the names lol. Almost has the exact same date too lol likeeeee how is your love story exactly the same as mine 🤦🏾‍♀️ but it happens. Don't let her steal your joy. Keep that theme, yours will be better anyway because you've put a lot of thought into it. Just don't share another thing.
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Alyssa.greenlee · on January 28, 2020 at 10:47 PM
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Honestly, I would be upset too... if you feel as though you aren't going to appreciate the theme as much I would definitely change it to something that you love!
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