Stock the Bar Party

If you mean a stock the bar party like your friends bring alcohol that you will serve at the wedding...pass on that. It is so inappropriate to pass your expenses off on your guests. . If your friends love to host parties, have some non-wedding related ones.

But, to your question, you do not invite the same people to more than 1 shower, it is really gift grabby

My FH and I don't actually drink liquor and we had already budgeted to provide the beer and wine at the wedding, so yes I actually was planning to use the liquor at the wedding since we wouldn't drink it at home. I actually don't care if people come and don't bring anything at all, I'm looking at this as more of an engagement party in a way. It's more of a celebration than anything and it's not like we NEED the liquor for the wedding. They set it up as a facebook event so it's not really that formal of an invite either.

@Emmy...as far as I as the ones I have attended, Stock The Bar parties aren't for the liquor thats to be served at the wedding but to help the soon to be newly weds stock a bar in the home they will share together...I've usually seen these done as house warming parties though and is usually limited to close friends and family.

I think Gamecox had one, she may be able to shed more light on the situation and what she did!

I think you should just call it an engagement party and skip the whole stock the bar thing.

I don't consider the Stock the Bar party to be a part of the wedding, so you can invite whoever you want. We often throw parties and one friend paid mucho bucks to reno his basement into a bar/movie theatre. He always stocks the alcohol for the parties and we go through multiple bottles a night because the parties are almost once a month with 20-60 people each time. So I suggested he have a Stock the Bar party to make up for the fact that we keep drinking his liquor and he just spent all that money on the basement. There was no reason why he should front all that liquor. People always bring their own beer, but people don't always bring liquor bottles. Everyone loved the idea and he still has lots of bottles left.

In the situation I mentioned, it's perfectly okay. But I do not suggest you have a Stock the Bar party to help get alcohol at your wedding. That's a big no-no, in my opinion.

We do have lots of get togethers so I'm not opposed to keeping the alcohol and having it available to them when they come to our house.

We did have one. We didn't get THAT much but we did use what we got for the wedding bar. No one cared and the guys were much happier to bring us some liquor than a crystal bowl. Now, we didn't have any other showers that the attendees (except for BM) would have also been invites to.

It was fun and if someone is gonna say that I am tacky...so be it!

I wouldn't call it "tacky" to use the alcohol at the wedding. It's not something I see happening around here so I guess I would label it "unusual" but not tacky, and I wouldn't be put off by it. Your guests are giving it to you to use however you'd like it. But personally, I'm not a hard liquor drinker and I always make sure to have some on hand for my guests. So if it were me, I'd just stock my home bar for when we have company!