Stock the Bar Party... tacky or not??

I think that this idea is tacky for sure...it makes you seem like you can't afford your wedding...it would be a better idea to go with a traditional shower...even though me and FH live together we are still going to go with a traditional shower and add things on our registry that we don't have in our home already.

I personally wouldn't have one for the reasons you already stated -- the costs of the wedding shouldn't be put onto guests at all.

I love the idea of a Stock the Bar party, but I've always heard of them being used to stock the couples' personal bar, not the bar at the wedding. I don't think it's very gracious to ask your guests to help fund the open bar.

I second @twostep127. I've never heard of it being used to stock the wedding bar (tacky!), just a personal bar for the couple.

Tacky. You are expecting people to supply the alcohol for an event you are hosting. NO.

I don't see the difference between this and a cash bar. They are buying their own drinks. Might as well just make it a BYOB

To be honest... I don't want ANY sort of party or shower. Is that wrong?? Im that person who never knows how to open a gift graciously, I don't fart sparkles and gush over every tea towel. Not because I'm ungrateful, but because I'm awkward and would rather have my friends not spend their money on me, especially for things that we just don't need. Im obviously not very good at this hahah!! Keep the feedback coming, it really is appreciated and I'm so thankful for the honesty!!

I've heard of Stock the Bar parties in lieu of showers when the party stocks the couple's bar, and I think that is ok. I don't think you should do this to stock the bar at the wedding.

I don't like this. Tacky.

You don't HAVE to have ANY kind of shower if you don't want one. Just make a small registry with upgrades to items you already have (like new sheets).

Andilynne, do you realize that you can eloquently and effectively state your point of view on here without dropping 20 f-bombs and other swear words? Lots of people manage to do that. I've seen two posts from you and they've both been super crude. You can tone it down anytime.

Couples bar, and personal bar... please explain? Yes, at 34 years old, I should know more about traditional weddings, however, we aren't exactly traditional types of people. I'm assuming this is just alcohol the bride and groom will drink?

No Jody, that's not wrong. Showers are completely optional. You never throw your own shower anyway, and if someone offers one, you can simply say thank you but I would prefer not to have one. Simple.

@Emily. Why do you care? It's a just a word. Chill out sweet cheeks

I've heard of a "stock the bar" for a housewarming party, but not for a wedding. I'm having a small registry but not a shower. No shower = acceptable. Asking friends to bring booze for your non-open bar wedding = not acceptable.

Tacky. You cannot ask your guests to provide alcohol for a party you're throwing for them. That's basically BYOB and as a guest you can't get much worse than that.

I don't care, I just think you're gross and have no problem letting you know.

A couple things:

Hosting a shower for yourself is a no no.

It's ok to not have a shower at all. (I'm not.)

You don't have to register either. (I didn't. FH and I have been together 10 years.)

You don't have to have a full open bar to be a good host. (It's a great way to save money.) Offering beer and signature drinks is fine, but may I suggest you consider a little wine as well. (Doesn't have to be fancy.)

And yes, as you've already heard, a stock the bar party is in bad taste.

Yes, I forgot to include we will do a red and white wine, and a champagne toast. You think this is okay??

I think that's great! That gives options for everyone.