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Still Stressing Out About Lack of Ubers in my area

Jennifer, on March 30, 2022 at 1:08 AM Posted in Planning 0 9

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I’m still stressing out about the transportation situation (or lack thereof) in my area. I’ve gotten a few cousins text me who are super excited about finding a lake cabin with a view that they’re all going to share. Totally rained on their parade when I said Ubers are virtually non-existent and the ONE taxi driver is not the most reliable…
On my website, I have mentioned this and strongly suggested to stay at the hotel where the reception is held or their sister hotel (there’s a free shuttle between them). I’ve mentioned the limited transportation options there are and non of them leave city proper. My invitations don’t go out until July, but I’m certainly adding an insert that mentions all of this again and I may even send out a reminder a month before.
My fiancé and I have agreed that for the reception itself, we will not be providing transportation since the free hotel shuttle runs until 11 PM and will take them along the historic loop where most of the Bed and Breakfasts are located. If they decide to venture outside of that, they’re on their own.I’m now stressing out about our Welcome Dinner. The location is about a 10 minute drive (3.5 miles) away from our suggested hotel. It’s at a brewery, but we are only serving wine and beer. They have 2 options to get here: drive (there’s parking) or take the trolley, which stops running at 8 PM and our Welcome Dinner starts at 6 PM.
I’ve gotten a few quotes from car services and they seem really pricey:- Sedan with Driver on-call: $200 first hour + $60/additional hour which includes gratuity, gas, etc- 29 person shuttle: $600 for 1.5 hours or $1000 for 5.5 hours. No gratuity included.I’m waiting for a quote on a minivan right now. I think the 29 person shuttle is overkill.Would you pay for transportation for your guests in my situation or just let them figure it out and hope they’re responsible adults? If you would, how much would you be willing to spend?
If you’ve made it this far, thank you for reading. I’m so stressed about this that I’ve gotten like 4 new zits on my face 😭

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Latest activity by S, on March 30, 2022 at 2:38 PM

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Michelle · on March 30, 2022 at 7:39 AM
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Hi Jennifer. I don't think you should provide transport for your casual welcome dinner. Like you resolved with your fiance last post, your guests are adults. They will have to figure out they are not there for the lake view, they are there for you. Only bother with details of how the parents will get to/from and you will stress less.
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Sarah · on March 30, 2022 at 7:47 AM
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Is your wedding local for most guests? Or at least a driveable distance even if they’re staying somewhere? If so then I definitely wouldn’t worry about transportation. I follow Jamie Wolfer on YouTube and Instagram and she’s a wedding planner and she says transportation can be such a headache and most of the time guests can take care of themselves anyways. I personally feel like guests are responsible and can find their own way to each place. Whenever we go to a wedding we usually just decide one of us will be the DD and that’s it. I don’t think I’ve ever relied on an Uber for a wedding. It sounds like you’re really stressing yourself out over this, and it’s kind of you to consider your guests, but I think you’ve done everything you can to accommodate them. You told them about the shuttle and that’s the most you can do. Just be sure to openly communicate with your guests, which it sounds like you are, and they can figure it out from there.
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Jennifer · on March 30, 2022 at 9:30 AM
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Thank you! Yes, the parents will be riding with us and they’re both staying at the reception hotel. Not like we can go crazy since we have to pack up the casual dinner and have a big early day the next day haha.
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Jennifer · on March 30, 2022 at 9:32 AM
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It is not. It’s actually a destination wedding for everyone. That’s why it seems they’re making a vacation out of it lol. Thank you! I’ll try not to stress about it.
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Candace · on March 30, 2022 at 9:44 AM
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No, I think you're being generous with the transportation options. They can figure out what's best for their situation. If the friends are sharing a cabin, they can also share a rental car. Or they can stay where the shuttle will pick them up.
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Hannah · on March 30, 2022 at 11:20 AM
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I know it keeps stressing you out, but I will continue to post the same advice. They. Are. Adults. It isn't your responsibility to provide transportation. You have warned them every way you can shy of sending a carrier pigeon. You've told them. They booked other accommodations. They will deal with the consequences. You can't force people to do something. If you've told them 20 times and they still don't listen, the onus is no longer on you.
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Grace · on March 30, 2022 at 1:28 PM
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Your guests are adults and should be able to drink responsibly and know their limits. Those that are planning to drink past the point where it is safe to drive are responsible for organizing their own carpool. However, if they are sharing accommodation then only one person needs to be the DD to get everyone home safe. It will be okay and you have more than covered your responsibility of notifying them of the situation. It is up to them now to plan accordingly.

The only thing you might want to check is if the brewery and reception venue will allow guests to park there overnight if they unexpectedly need to get a ride home from someone else. That way no one has to decide between driving drunk or their car being towed because they got a ride from someone else.
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Jennifer · on March 30, 2022 at 1:31 PM
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Yes! The hotel does allow overnight parking and the owners of the brewery are our good friends, but we’ll still check with them just to make sure! Thanks for the reminder
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S · on March 30, 2022 at 2:38 PM
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I agree with everyone's advice above! I think it's incredibly sweet that you guys are being so considerate and wanting to have safe transportation options available for your guests. At the same time, they are adults and I would think it's their responsibility to drink responsibly and organize a designated driver. I went to a wedding in a very rural part of Idaho with no Uber, and we were considering staying in an Airbnb with a beautiful view, but we ultimately decided for ourselves that staying at the hotel where the wedding was hosted was the most convenient option.
The best thing you can do in addition to plastering all over your website that there are no rideshares is to continue communicating by word of mouth - sometimes people don't look at wedding websites until the last minute (I've been guilty of that many times), so telling people individually could help raise awareness before your guests make any concrete plans. For your rehearsal dinner, is there an option to possibly start it an hour sooner so that the trolley could be a more accessible option for people?
I know it's easier said than done, but try to not stress out too much. The fact that you're even thinking about all of this is more than what many people do.
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