Still having your wedding

View Quoted Comment Perhaps you missed the (subsequently deleted) post in which she commented that she doesn’t care about my feeling regarding how her wedding puts my life, and the lives of other healthcare providers in danger.


That seems like a fairly insensitive comment, no? Perhaps even mean?
I truly hope that none of you get sick enough to see what is really happening right now inside our hospitals. I can assure you that my concerns are not unfounded here.

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If the date is sentimental to you, then just get married on that date with your officiant only and postpone the big celebration for later! Nobody will care if your cake topper, signs, champagne flutes, serving sets, etc. have the original date on them. It won't even matter because you will still have gotten married on your special day. Just PLEASE don't put everyone's health and safety at risk by holding a large celebration on your original date. You can still get officially married then and postpone the big celebration for later--that's what a ton of other brides are doing!

First I want to apologize for people that are being rude to you, that's incredibly insensitive. I think everyone on here can agree that we want things to go back to normal or to be whatever the new normal is. We need to practice kindness right now and not attack each other. As brides we need to be here for one another. Support each other, be the bride that another bride feels comfortable talking to. Your date is special to you, I think if you want to get married on that date you should. The size may be different than what you thought it would be. You can always have a big reception on a later date. And truly use the items you purchased for your big day because that date holds a significance for you and your FH. Everyone who attends will understand. Good luck!!!

View Quoted Comment Fun fact, I too am a healthcare provider. I know exactly what is happening inside out hospitals because I see it every single day. Bit that doesn't not give me, or you, the right to bash any one for hoping they can have the wedding they planned. Reality will decide whether or not she can, and honestly your opinion on whether or not she should, does not matter and should be kept to yourself.

OP, this post started because you expressed a willingness to continue with your large wedding despite the risks to other people’s health because you had already had it engraved on your champagne flutes. You subsequently justified this by saying it’s your anniversary. None of this is justification for risking the health of your guests, their families, or essential workers in their communities.


I‘m sorry that I was rude. I should have paused before commenting. I was very angry when I posted, because I find it incredibly frustrating that you seem to think you are exempt from public health guidance, and because you have repeatedly demonstrated a lack of regard for other people’s feelings and other people’s lives, including mine and those of other hospital employees. You subsequently confirmed your plan to carry on with your large wedding, even though you are concerned that you and your fiancé have been exposed to the virus. I apologize that my tone made you perhaps even less willing to hear these concerns. I should have expressed my concerns in a less confrontational manner. But I’m really, truly frustrated.
Brides have it rough right now, and are being asked to sacrifice their dream weddings. This is a big sacrifice. But those of us in healthcare are putting our lives at risk working in dangerous conditions. We are watching our patients die alone. We are watching our colleagues get sick. To claim that you are exempt from social distancing and CDC guidelines, and to tell a healthcare worker explicitly that you don’t value her feelings about her own life, is extremely disrespectful. Every bride thinks her date or her wedding is special. All of them are right. None of these dates are worth dying for.