Hello brides! My fiance and I received a call from our venue telling us that our July 4th wedding is going to be canceled. Of course I was upset and devastated however now we are looking to have a small ceremony in our backyard on July 4th and have our originally planned wedding at a later date. I...
My fiance and I received a call from our venue telling us that our July 4th wedding is going to be canceled. Of course I was upset and devastated however now we are looking to have a small ceremony in our backyard on July 4th and have our originally planned wedding at a later date. I want to wear my original wedding dress with all of the accessories selected but I am unsure. Are any of you brides moving forward with your original wedding date wearing your original wedding dress for both weddings? Both my mother and mother-in-law to be told me to just get a new one later kind of don't want to spend the extra money lol
Mine is 4.25.2021 but if we get these waves like they're predicting, I'm not gonna be surprised if we get that call. Right now there's lots to do and that's where our focus is. When that wave actually comes we'll talk about moving the date.
To answer the dress question, ab-so-lu-tly!!!! If anything my look will only grow more goddess like and fierce (but like in a hippie dippie wood nymph way)
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If we have to postpone the reception we're still going to get married year, but we're going to ask our photographer to come for an hour or two when we have the ceremony. That could be a good idea for you if you want to wear your dress but you're worried that means you won't capture the first look. (It will happen no matter what else is going on.)
That still wouldn't be the same. I feel like if I wore my dress now for an elopement, our ceremony later would be 100% marriage theater and there would be absolutely nothing special or surprising about it. While I care a lot about photos, I also care about our ceremony feeling special and I just feel like if all the surprises are gone and there is nothing legal about it then we are just doing it for show and that's not really what I want at all.
Just made the decision to Postpone my 8/14/2020 wedding to next year. We're still getting married with our parents & siblings by our side this year and I will be wearing my dress! As many have said, I will GLADLY wear my dress twice! I love it and it cost quite a chunk of change, so let's call it getting my money's worth haha Also I think seeing a dress in photos is not the same as seeing someone in it in person. Will people see how pretty it is - sure. But next year when we're all together and they can see it for real, it will be even better. And 1 year is quite a bit of time so I think it will still feel fresh
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That makes sense to me, I just didn't read what you said about the first look that way. I'm going to wear my dress now partly because I want the actual/legal ceremony to feel more special. I feel like if I only wear my dress to the party, that will make it feel like a costume. I still want to do some kind of ceremony when we have the reception so it still feels like a wedding, but I'm not sure what that would look like at this point. We haven't gotten rings yet, so I was thinking of maybe just getting silicone rings this year and then getting real/nicer rings next year so the ring exchange is happening for the first time, but that's the only thing I've come up with so far in regards to that.
I am not wearing my original dress, for a few reasons. First, I have it but I won’t have time to get it altered before wearing it because it needs to be taken in, have a few buttons replaced, and be shortened quite a bit. It’s a lot more complicated and things are just now starting to open up (and our small wedding is June 13, AND I’m out of state). Also, my fiancé and I decided that we will do a reveal at our larger wedding in September so I get to surprise him with two dresses. If for some reason that wedding can’t happen, we will look at postponing again or we will just get dressed up and take wedding photos anyways. I decided to order a cheap dress online and I actually love it! It’s a bit simpler but offers a contrasting style, so I’ll get to have two unique looks. Plus, it actually fits amazing and just needs to be shortened slightly. Since it’s a simple dress I’ve already found someone that can get it done in time. Another reason is we aren’t having our groomsmen rent tuxes twice, so they’re going to be looking different at our mini wedding also. All in all I decided it would be more fun to have two sets of wedding pictures with totally different looks. Trying to make the best out of a difficult situation!
I do have a friend that’s wearing her fancy dress twice, so I think it’s all personal preference.
I'm getting married on July 12, I hope... haven't heard otherwise yet.
We've decided that we will get married with or without the reception on the 12th.
I ordered a backup outfit to wear just in case we wind up having an intimate ceremony for the immediate family somewhere else (synagogue for example). It's an ivory jumpsuit from Bronx and Banco. I love it but it needs to be altered... Which begs the question where will I get it altered??? The crotch needs to be shortened and the legs hemmed.
Anyway - that's my plan.
Honestly - I'm sick of looking at my dress, I was supposed to get married on April 5. I'm afraid it doesn't fit anymore I kinda want to wear the jumpsuit anyway!
(please don't recommend diets and exercise - I've already got a busted hip from running in addition to a rather complicated relationship with food and my body)
Yea if I could think of a creative way to make the wedding ceremony with our friends feel meaningful and special (not like we are just going through the motions) I'd be more apt to elope now, but I can't figure it out. We have both silicone and gold rings, so I had also thought about doing silicone rings now and then gold rings later if we eloped.
I definitely agree that the legal ceremony should feel super special! That's probably why my FH would want me to wear my dress if we went that route. Honestly if we hadn't gotten so far along with planning and picked the specific venue we did, I would be way more apt to elope now and just have a party later but the venue we picked out was a splurge for us but had all the extras that would make getting ready there, doing photos, and having a ceremony special. We originally considered just a small ceremony followed by a party on a different date before Covid but when we found our venue it was just so incredible and we then planned everything around that. Our venue has lodging on site, an absolutely gorgeous loft to get ready in, a beautiful ceremony site, etc and I feel like we aren't paying all this money not to take advantage of those things and need to figure out some wackadoo elopement logistics (for example, we have a 900 square foot home with one bathroom, so it would be next to impossible for us to get ready at our home without seeing each other). I just wish we weren't in this situation at all!
Mine is staying in the closet until next year. If we go ahead with a small intimate ceremony I will just purchase a simple white dress under $100. My dress hasn’t been altered because of the closures so it wouldn’t fit properly anyway. I think you should wear your dress if you really want to. This is an odd time for a lot of people so a lot of traditions are getting thrown out.
My fiance and I are sticking to our date and I am wearing my dress. I don't plan on having a later reception for our own personal desire to just do it once and make it as beautiful as possible despite circumstances. Each day is a blessing, so I plan to live in the moment. Now on my wedding anniversary, I plan to wear my dress and have a romantic evening in our home. I gotta wear that dress at least once more!
We are planning to have a small family gathering on our original July wedding date, and another reception/party next year. I plan to wear the dress to both - that's the silver lining of the situation all 2020 brides are in. If you're holding two events due to the current situation, wear that dress you love twice!
I also believe we as 2020 brides and grooms have had to deal with enough stress making the decision to postpone, cancel, or alter plans and you should do whatever you want to do on your wedding day!
I am! We postponed until 2021, but are doing a small ceremony with my family in my brother's backyard. I am wearing my dress for both...gotta get that cost per wear down. I mean, I love it so much and why only wear it once?! Rock it sister!
Yes, I am planning to do the same. Private ceremony in my original dress. And an anniversary celebration reception next year where I also plan to where the damn dress! There are no rules in a pandemic! Do what feels right for you!
I asked a similar question and the responses I received made sense and I’m going to go through with it. Typically you only get to wear your dress once and this is opportunity to wear it more than one time! If I have to postpone my wedding I’m still going to wear it when we go to the courthouse and again at a later date at our reception. The only thing I may just do myself for the courthouse ceremony is do my own makeup but everything else, accessories and such I will wear twice!
July 18 bride. Nope, my FH and I are still getting married and I’m wearing my dress. I’m very hopeful we will be in phase 4 by July and just want it to be over with. Probably go on a big honeymoon next year.
We are still planning to wed on our original date and our Venue told us to continue planning as is for now. I have two dresses in the off chance we have to postpone. If we don't postpone, I will be using my alternate dress for the rehearsal and my main dress for the big day. My Fiancé also wants me to use the main dress for the big day only.