Stiffed on a gift etiquette

If I were you I just wouldn't do anything. I would not send a thank you card but I also would just not mention it to them either and would let it go.

This isn't as uncommon as you'd think. Maybe they forgot it.. or perhaps are mailing it to you.. Regardless, them taking time out of their day to come be apart of your big day and celebrate is a "gift." You should still send a card thanking them for attending and celebrating.

You weren't stiffed There is no rule someone has to give a gift at a wedding.

No need to send a thank you. The reception is the thank you for attending the ceremony.

I think you can skip the thank you card but keep in mind that they technically have up to 1 year to give a gift.

I agree with Kiley. We had several people that we didn’t receive anything from but I still sent thank you cards since they came to celebrate with us. The same day I mailed my thank you cards I got two cards in the mail. And for those that didn’t give anything it’s totally fine because we really just wanted family and friends to be with us.

Still send a thank you card! Gifts are not mandatory at weddings and they took the time out of their day to celebrate you guys.

You don't have to send a card, but it's pretty typical to not get gifts from all your guests.

There’s nothing to handle. Gifts aren’t mandatory, you weren’t “stuffed.” No, you don’t send a thank you card. Thank you cards are for gifts.

You send thank yous for gifts and you weren't stiffed, gifts aren't mandatory.

This happened to me with one person. I was surprised not to get a card at least. I did not send a thank you card and I don't intend to. I got one card that said a gift will be coming. I will wait for the gift to send a thank you card.

But to not even give a card!!?? Where my husband and I are from, you don’t show up anywhere empty handed- whether it is to someone’s house for a snack or to someone’s wedding!

View Quoted Comment Exactly! Like to not even have a card!? I don’t get it.

View Quoted Comment This is what I believe! I don't care if you bring a gift but a card is necessary. It's just wishing someone well. Although, people do forget. 🤷‍♀️ I never go somewhere empty handed. I even brought a bottle of wine for my SIL hosting a birthday dinner for me 🤣

View Quoted Comment 100%!!! Totally agree!

You shouldn't do anything and should only send thank you's to ppl who gave gifts, not for attending the ceremony/reception.

I would actually just let it go. While we did set up a registry, we don't expect everyone to bring a gift.

Not everyone gives gifts. And if they are sending a gift, it is perfectly polite to send it in the 3 months after a wedding, for any reason. So you don't" do" anything, you let it be
Also, you must send a thank you note for a gift. But it is incorrect to send a thank you note for people who just attend. Guests thank the host. Host's do not thank guests for accepting their hospitality, that is backwards. Since most guests do give bigger than hostess gift type wedding gifts, this is the one big event where they are exempt from sending you a thank you note. . . . But although you may write someone a nice news letter about how nice the wedding was, send photos, whatever, you do not send it on a thank you note. That would be like saying, oh, thank you so much for taking the $200 dollars I spent giving you an evening g out with a meal in a wonderful setting. Wrong . Backwards. Host's thank guests for including them. If no wedding gift, then actually, any guest who came without any gift to come in next 3 months, actually owes you a thank you note for the nice dinner and party, as well as for letting them witness your special event . But no one ever "owes " a gift. It is a custom most if us voluntarily follow, but never a requirement. A requirement is, any person who does not send/ give any gift at all before it after the wedding, and no card, dies owe you a prompt thank you note. Which only a few are gra ious enough to do. Don't you fill in by thanking them, that is laughable.

We had a few guests not give us anything, and we did not send thank you cards. Their thank you for spending our special day with us was the extensive meal and open bar.

You weren't stiff by the guests. I believe that
It's a pleasure that people took time to celebrate my wedding. Maybe financially they couldn't afford to get a gift. I have no expectations from anyone to bring anything.
I will not judge anyone. I plan to send out "Thank you" cards to each and every guest.

I honestly find it rude if someone does not give a gift or at least a card at a wedding...um they sell cards 2 for $1 at the dollar store.
That might just be me, but i find it rude. Your invited to a wedding, fed and everything the least they could have done was give a card.
Id say dont do anything. They might send something in the mail but i doubt it