Stepmother?

It’s your wedding your decision. If you want her to be apart of it she can. If your dad is walking you why would she demand to? That seems odd. Do you have a good relationship with her? Do YOU want her to be apart of the processional?

So my wedding is coming up, but my dad is walking me and she is not invited to be part of the procession. She will be sitting with my sister's bf that no one wants there either lol. My stepdad on the other hand is walking my mom in. I think it's up to you, but you certainly don't have to have her be part of it unless you want her to be.

Agree with PPs, this is a personal decision that only you can make. If you want to honor her by having her walk in the processional, great. If not, just reserve a seat for her in the front.

My stepmom was definitely an important part of my wedding weekend but did not process and she didn’t expect to

My parents divorced in the 90's and my mom is very sick and won't be at the wedding. I'm having my brother-in-law walk my dad's girlfriend down the aisle. Dad and L have been together more than 10 years, and we want her part in our family recognized. It does make it easier that my mom won't be there, however.

View Quoted Comment We do not have a healthy relationship. Shes very demanding when it comes to my dad, especially if my mother is around. I'm just nice to her because I have to be. I'll reserve a seat in front then for her! Seems easy enough.

Our stepparents were 100% included as family, I can't imagine not including them. My father in law walked his wife (husband's stepmother) down the aisle and my stepfather walked my mother down. My husband's two stepsisters were bridesmaids and his stepsister's kids were our flower children.

My mom, when my dad divorced my stepmom, firmly believes that I should stop associating with my ex-stepmom because of said divorce. But the woman has been in my life for as long as I can remember, so, even though she’s not a part of the processional, she is helping with hair styling and she’s going to be at the ceremony and the reception. I guess your relationship with her should contribute to it.

My stepmother got ready with us, and was involved in planning. However, my mother was *not* there, so my family dynamic is very particular.

I think you need to sit down with your dad and your stepmom and talk it out. What are you comfortable with? What is she comfortable with? Is there a happy middle?

You can have whoever you and your FH want to walk during the processional. Since my parents and grandparents are all remarried, FH and I have to figure out who is walking with who and when. FH and I haven't agreed yet who is walking in the processional and who is walking down beforehand, but I think my stepmom and stepdad will probably end up walking down the aisle together (which might be awkward ) due to the mom's walking together and my dad walking me down. Who knows, we still have time to figure it out.

I am becoming a step Mom in four months. I've known my stepdaughters since they were 2 and 3 It would be so incredibly hurtful for them to get married when they're grownups and not include me. I know I'm not their Mom and never will be, but I at least like to think they would respect and want to include me. Yes, if it happened that way, I'd suck it up. But you would be surprised how often stepparents are not included as part of a family, especially when it comes to jealousy/envy/stored resentment from family members.

That said, if your parents were still married, your Mom would be escorted down the aisle by a groomsman prior to the processional anyway. Why not do the same for both your step mom and your bio Mom? This is your Dad's partner - whether you really love her or not, you dishonor your Dad by excluding his partner.