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Stepmother wording in programs

Am, on November 19, 2018 at 5:57 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 6

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Hi! I know there are already forums on this but I couldn't find one specific enough so wanted to ask for some ideas. My dad remarried after my mom died many years ago. I am close-ish to my dad's wife and therefore want her walk down the aisle (not with me and my dad, ill have her walk down at some point in the processional on her own). Since she is walking down the aisle and I do not want to offend her or my dad, I would also like to include her in the programs. Currently my programs list each person by title: "FATHER OF THE BRIDE", etc. Since she is not walking with my dad, I don't feel I can say "escorted by wife ___" and also this is tricky with the template I have that includes each person's title. Does anyone have any ideas of how to include her or alternate names to call a step mom without saying "dad's wife" haha. Thank you!

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Latest activity by MrsD, on November 20, 2018 at 11:45 AM

Champion October 2018
Kelly · on November 19, 2018 at 5:59 PM
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Is there a reason you don’t want her listed as stepmother of the bride?
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Dedicated August 2019
Am · on November 19, 2018 at 6:01 PM
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It just doesn’t feel right, like a betrayal to my mom who passed away somehow. If there’s no alternative, then I’ll do that
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Devoted March 2020
Arlene · on November 19, 2018 at 6:44 PM
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Can she walk with a ring bearer or flower girl and have that Title be
FLOWER GIRL "insert name" escorted by "step mother name"
RING BEARER "insert name" escorted by
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Super September 2019
Anna · on November 20, 2018 at 5:46 AM
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Only alternative I can think of is generic “parents of the bride” and put both your dad and stepmom.

im in a similar boat, my mom passed when I was young and dad remarried, and FH parents divorced and both remarried. So I think to separate any confusion, I’m going to either doing it by parent grouping or list the “steps”.

all your feelings are valid, but coming from someone’s mom who passed away as well, I wouldn’t feel bad about putting step mom or bride parents as a title. Idk your situation but my stepmom raised me through my hell teenage years. She puts up with a lot of stuff and she’s just as much as my mother than my actual mother was.
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HayMrsO · on November 20, 2018 at 11:32 AM
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To me, "parents of the bride" would feel like you are excluding your mom.
"Stepmother of Bride" seems like a proper title. In no way is she taking the place of your mom, no one could do that.
My husband and I both had children from our first marriages when we got together. I refer to them as my "bonus" children. Something about "step children" gives me a negative connotation. We say the only steps are at the front door! So maybe "bonus mom?" Maybe that's too corny for you, I don't know.
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MrsD · on November 20, 2018 at 11:45 AM
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Can you list "Bride's Family"? And put her there, maybe with your siblings if you have any? I don't think there is anything wrong with "Bride's Stepmother".
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