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idania
Savvy September 2019

Stepmom Etiquette. Help!

idania, on April 12, 2018 at 10:13 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 10

my parents have been divorced for about 4 years & it was a nasty ol thing. fast forward, parents are both happy now but haven't seen/spoken since the divorce became official. dad is remarried & I want to include my stepmom in the wedding somehow. my stepmom was there for us when my mom left & she is a very sweet dear lady. I love my mom to death & obviously all has been forgiven & we've moved forward but don't want to hurt her feelings, anybody dealt with this before?!

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Latest activity by Annie, on April 12, 2018 at 3:19 PM
  • Going to the chapel
    Master July 2017
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    You could invite stepmom to go dress shopping and/or alterations appointments. You could ask her to attend any of the other appointments too. Venues, florals, etc.

    As for the actual ceremony, have her escorted in like a parent typically is. Get her a corsage. She'll be thrilled.

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  • Future Mrs M
    Super June 2018
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    You could have her sat by an usher before the ceremony, like the mom typically is!

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  • PrincessLawrence
    VIP June 2018
    PrincessLawrence ·
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    So my mom and step mom dont have issues but I am very close with step family so my step mom is walking with her father

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  • idania
    Savvy September 2019
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    I was thinking of this too. Thanks!

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  • idania
    Savvy September 2019
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    My mom & step mom are very kind to each other & don't have issues as well. they met on accident once LOL, I just don't want my mom to feel like I'm pick one over the other you know? Thank you! Smiley heart

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  • PrincessLawrence
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    Yes I get that. I am including my step mom in like walking and intros and that but she says she is staying behind the scenes. Talk to her it may help

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  • C&N
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    I'm not that close with mine, but I had her escorted in by one of my brothers in the processional. I had both my mom and my dad walk me down the aisle, so I felt like this was a way to do it so that she felt good but obviously my mom had a larger role. I also had my mom there getting ready, while my stepmom just came early for family photos.

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  • L
    Expert May 2018
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    First, chat with your mom and tell her that you will be including step mom in different ways and your hope is she can be ok with that. Then, figure how you want to have step mom involved. As far as the big day, I have seen where the order of family members escorted in prior to bridal party would be... step mom, parents of groom, then brides mother. If they can, seat the mom & step mom in the same pew, other wise stepmom behind mom.
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  • idania
    Savvy September 2019
    idania ·
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    Awesome! thank you so much. talking to my mom before hand is something I should've thought of myself so I definitely well. Thank you!

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  • Annie
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    According to my florist, who is a family friend, when it comes to flowers you treat moms & step moms the same. My FH's step mom will get the same corsage as his mom and my mom. I'm inviting FH's step mom to get her hair & makeup done with us if she likes. I would definitely have your step mom walked down by an usher too.

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