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Just Said Yes October 2018

Stepmom & Aunt not attending Bridal Shower!?!

Marisa, on August 27, 2018 at 7:55 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 12
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I'm very irritated because my aunt and stepmom won't be attending my bridal shower and I need advice on if I am overreacting or not. My aunt and stepmom live four hours from where my shower will be, my shower starts at 3pm on a Sunday. They both agreed together that they won't go because they have work the next day and don't want to get home too late that night. BUT my dad is planning on coming to town for a football game and said he doesn't plan on stopping by either. I feel like they are important people in my life, it's one day out of their life, and they should come! I told them I was upset but that didn't change a thing and I don't want to beg anyone to attend. Am I overreacting and upset for no reason?

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Latest activity by Kelsey, on August 28, 2018 at 10:22 AM
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    Super April 2019
    Valerie ·
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    Yes you are overreacting that they don't want to drive EIGHT HOURS to attend a two hour party where they will sit and watch you open presents.

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  • Going to the chapel
    Master July 2017
    Going to the chapel ·
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    Valerie nailed it. Them not attending doesn't mean they don't care about you.

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  • Sherrie
    Expert August 2019
    Sherrie ·
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    Agree with Valerie. 8 hours on the road is way too much to commit for a shower when also having to get up at 0 dark 30 for work the next day. It's just your shower, not the wedding. I get that it stings but it's four hours away. The location isn't their choice or fault.
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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    I wouldn't spend 8 hours driving for a party. And your dad probably isn't stopping by because it's not traditional or expected for the FOB to attend the shower.

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  • earias
    Champion December 2017
    earias ·
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    Yes you're overreacting. As soon as I saw "4 hours" I thought, holy cow! Even making someone drive 2 hours is too much. But 4 hours each way - 8 hours total - and on a Sunday when they have work the next day! Take it from someone in her 40s, the older you get, the longer it takes to recover from things like this. It is not so easy to sit in a car for 8 hours and then be fresh and ready for work the next day.

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  • FirstTimeMOB
    October 2018
    FirstTimeMOB ·
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    If they are important people in your life that you really wanted at your shower, then you should have communicated to whomever was hosting that you wanted the shower on a Saturday so they could attend without worrying about getting home late.


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    Devoted September 2019
    Gell ·
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    I think it's unrealistic to expect anyone to travel for a shower.

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  • WED18
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    WED18 ·
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    I would never travel 4 hours each way on a Sunday afternoon for a shower.

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  • Laura
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    Laura ·
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    4 hours each way is a bit much for a shower. I’d let it go.
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    Dedicated September 2019
    Dakota ·
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    Yeah, that's too damn long for them to drive for a short party and thwn work the next day. And the bridal shower is traditionally a woman only party, so I can understand your father not stopping by.
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    Emily ·
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    I've driven 3.5 hours each way for a shower because I wanted to and had company on the drive. It was a hard day and I was tired the next day. You have to let this one go. It's okay to be disappointed but you can't hold this against them.

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  • Kelsey
    Devoted September 2018
    Kelsey ·
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    I wouldn't be upset. It's a far drive and as long as they are at the wedding to celebrate your new journey.

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