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Stepmom and Mom in wedding...help!

Taylor, on July 13, 2019 at 7:56 AM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 5

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Hi! I am newly engaged and probably not getting married til 2021...but still can’t stop thinking and planning ahead 😁

Long story short: my mother and I have had a poor relationship over the past few years. However, I’ve tried to include her in the excitement from the moment I got engaged and plan to include her in wedding festivities. But I have a stepmom who I have been a lot closer with. Honestly she feels like an older sister (lol! She’s a bit younger than my dad) but she’s important to me and it’s important that I honor her too.

Now...how to navigate them into the processional? Tradition says mother of the bride is escorted in last. Who do I have escort them?
I do not have a stepfather, my mother is recently dating someone. If they’re somehow still together in two years I guess I could have him escort her in? But probably not.
My mother has three sons in addition to me, and my stepmother has one son but he will only be 9 at the time of our wedding.

Thoughts? Ideas? Anyone with similar experiences?! Thanks!!

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Latest activity by Alex, on July 13, 2019 at 2:56 PM

Super October 2019
Devin · on July 13, 2019 at 8:17 AM
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You could always have your brothers escort the mothers down.
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Legend June 2019
Melle · on July 13, 2019 at 8:34 AM
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I agree with PP. It makes sense to have a brother escort your mom
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Savvy September 2021
Taylor · on July 13, 2019 at 8:42 AM
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Like maybe my oldest brother with my mom, and the 9 year old with stepmom? Wasn’t sure if I would have him as a ring bearer or not. Just feels weird to have one of my other brothers from my mom to escort my stepmom. But maybe I’ll play around with the idea.
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Master November 2019
Mrs. S · on July 13, 2019 at 8:47 AM
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My fiancé will escort his mom, and then my brother will escort my mom. Then the wedding party will process. I decided not to have my stepmom process just because then it gets complicated with choosing to escort other parents/step parents who we’re not as close to or leaving them out, but I was originally going to have my stepbrothers escort her in. She expressed not wanting to process anyway so it worked out. She’ll still have a corsage, special gifts, her name in the program, and a reserved seat.
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Savvy June 2019
Alex · on July 13, 2019 at 2:56 PM
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My husband and I both have two sets of married parents so we struggled with this same issue. We were concerned about the processional and not offending anyone. We ultimately decided not to have any parents in the processional just to keep things simple.
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