Stepdaughter says no kids which she wont make a exception for her 5 year old sister

It sounds like there is a lot going on here.

1. Your step-daughter isn't required to include her half-sister just because she is your miracle baby. It is her wedding and she's entitled to include whoever she wants and she obviously has decided that she wants a child-free wedding. That doesn't make her spoiled. Child-free weddings are very common. The couple probably doesn't want to deal with a bunch of children or don't have the extra money to include children. When we were getting married we were originally going to allow children, but it ended up being about 20 children and we couldn't afford to cover the costs for that many people. You can either find a sitter to watch your child so you can go or you can stay home with your child.

2. The fact you feel he doesn't care about your feelings and that's he was so wrapped up in his ex-wife including sending her adult toys and inappropriate selfies has me questioning why you married this man and why you continued to stay with him. There is no way I would've stayed with someone who was so obviously still involved with his ex. I also wouldn't want my feelings completely disregarded. By staying married to someone who doesn't care about you or your feelings you are teaching your child what is acceptable in a relationship/marriage.

3. Let him figure out the speech on his own. He is a grown man.

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much and as much as I know, I am not going to the wedding, of course even though I paid a lot of money for it as well so me and my daughter is just gonna go hang around Tennessee during the wedding, but I understand not having a bunch of kids at the wedding, but her own sister I would thought that maybe she might have a little bit of a heart, but I am wrong The only thing that gets me is just I’m always left out and now my daughter is too and I got over it for a while and didn’t care but now that my daughter is being left out and it’s a lot of things like if she comes to visit and we go over to Epcot and she’s walking and wants to hold her sister‘s hand. Her sister will hold her hands up to her chest And walk because her hands are sweaty and it’s not just one time. It’s every time she won’t even hold her hand. It just gets to me sometimes it’s sad and this is my last straw. There’s been so much and I just can’t keep being all sweet and nice and pretending things don’t hurt me so be done with the wedding and her anymore.

While it hurts that your daughter is excluded, accept that your family isn't close by some arbitrary wedding deadline. Don't bother hanging out with people who don't like you, certainly don't write speeches praising people you, yourself, don't like. Maybe your family will figure out a way later, but not today.

View Quoted Comment This is true I shouldn’t let people get to me that I have no control over. I just take everything to Heart and I wish I didn’t

I think you may be taking things a bit too personally, as far as the childless wedding goes. It would be one thing if they ONLY excluded your 5 year old, but they've decided not to allow ANY children. This is very common especially for brides who do not currently have kids. On the other hand her not wanting to hold her sisters hand etc. is just plain mean. Have you ever thought that the age gap between your miracle baby and step daughter could have anything to do with it?

As for your husband, the blatant disrespect of him contacting exes, sending money, gifts etc. is wild! and something you should have never accepted. Especially a sex toy!!!! How did you bring yourself to look passed that?!?

View Quoted Comment I don’t think I really have, I go to counseling. I basically go to work at my call center with people yelling at me every day. Go home clean house. I don’t go I don’t have friends I think all my past trauma is just caught up to me at my age and now I’m just Sad all the time. I used to be funny and outgoing and now I just I’m exhausted and I don’t care anymore. I’m too tired to put effort in. Just pretend I’m happy and go on the next day. I try to be happy but I feel like I’m just stuck in a big rut of nothing ever goes right and I wish I did. I tried to be positive but 99%. It’s always something negative. Still hoping for that great news one day or someone to be nice to me.

1) Please wtop saying "her sister": your daughter IS NOT her sister... but her step-sister, that’s not the same at all.
Because of that and the age gap, the bond can’t be the same, shés not close to her, that’s it that's all!
2) Her and her fiancé's wedding, their rules!My 8-year-old newphew is not going to be invited and my sister and brother-in-law didn’t make a fuss, even though the kid and I are blood-related. If she doesn’t want to make an exception, it’s her right.The same goes for the wedding party: the groom and the bride don’t owe anyone a spot in it, not even the siblings or the best friends forever.