Stepdad and tuxedo?

Ask him what he wants to wear

Let them wear what they want.

The pictures would be amazing if everyone matched. This reasoning takes the emotional part out. You don't have to explain anything beyond 'I want everyone matching in my pictures.'

What does he want to wear?

He just says that he will wear what I want him to. I just am tired of arguing. But I want him to look nice just like everyone else.

Is the groom wearing a tuxedo? No one should be dressed more formally than your FI.

I don't know how accurate this is. But when we went suit shopping, the owner said all the dads generally wear the same color and type (suit vs. tux.) I am in the same situation as you as I also have a step-dad and a dad. They all picked out black suits so it worked out.

I will be a second time bride this year but my first wedding 14 years ago I had my real dad in my wedding (I was young and clueless) and kind of left out my long time step dad. My mom later told me it hurt his feelings a bit because he's also a big part of my life. If you want your step dad to be part of your day then make it that way. (Mine is def going to be this time because I'm older and wiser lol) It's your day. They can set their differences aside for you for one day and both be part of it.

@Alisa they're not props.

@Cortney, what he wears is irrelevant, but definitely include him. If that means he has to wear a tux, then ask if he would wear a tux. He's been there for you and including him would likely mean a lot to him.

Let him wear what he wants. My dad will be wearing the same tux as the groomsmen but I dunno what my FFIL will do. I'm giving him the choice.