Stepdad and Father Wedding Advice

May I ask why did you feel it would not be a good idea to have him officiate? You do have that right to make that decision. I say in my opinion do not let people know your plans and just invite them. I am sure it hurts that he is ignoring you and that sucks but truthfully he is a grown man and at the end of the day you do not need to beg anyone to come. I say back off and your decision was your decision and he does not have to like it but he needs to respect it. I say send him and your mom and invitation like normal and it is on them if they choose to come. Only discuss wedding plans with people who are happy for you and your new venture. I hope things get better.

Well if nothing else, his own behavior proves he is absolutely the wrong person to have such an important role, so sounds like your gut decision was the right one. Bullet dodged, and now you can find either a professional, or someone who loves and supports you unconditionally.

I completely agree with this, I don't understand how your dad wouldn't think it's a good idea. Your stepdad would be officiating and your dad has his role in walking you down the aisle. I think that's beautiful and special. My step dad has been sick for over 10 years in a vegetative state. My prayer is for God to heal him and he could be a part of my wedding. You have the blessing of having both of them there in your wedding day and your step dad wants to be a part of it in officiating your wedding that's special.

Awwwwww ok I can see that perspective. Nothing wrong with protecting your dad. I can agree with a pp that considering how he did react but just not even communicating with you maybe that was a huge bullet dodged. I would say still show him the respect of inviting him but if they choose not to come that is on him. I would not reach out to him further but let him reach out to you if he chooses. Sorry so much drama and as a previous person mentioned that is the benefit of eloping less drama ha ha.

I'm so sorry you're going through this. It sounds like your step-dad needs to grow up. I can definitely understand why your dad wouldn't like your step-dad. Most people don't like the person their spouse cheated on them with. I honestly don't think I'd want any type of relationship with my mom or step-dad if I were in your position. I definitely wouldn't want someone who couldn't respect your parents relationship performing your wedding ceremony.

Ugh, I'm so sorry! I completely understand how it feels to be in the middle of your parents. My sister has actually been really helpful and sat my mom down for a "you need to be an adult about this" conversation. You could also tell your stepdad that you want your officiant to be someone special to BOTH of you.