Stepdad and Dad walking me down the aisle dilemma

If there is a good relationship between you all I see no reason why they both shouldn't walk you down the aisle. They both played a huge part in raising you and shaoing you into the person you are today so why not? If your dad has an issue with it then I think they could both walk you and then to the front where your mother would be sitting hug and kiss him and have him take a seat while your father gives you away! I think that's the fairest and makes the most sense. I think the half and half walks are just awkward!

My mother and Stepdad are no longer married but have a very good friendship still and unfortunately because he couldn't have kids of his own he considers me and my brother his own especially because he raised us since we were 3 and 4. My Dad is really unreasonable and not very understanding and since I am his only daughter I think it might hurt him and I don't want to hurt anybody. I think this is why this is just a tough decision. Telling my Dad will be the hardest part.

I feel for you! I am struggling with this dilemma as well. I respect that you want to honor both your dad and stepdad, but in the end, you should do what feels right to you. Also, are you doing a father-daughter dance?

@KRaeBride - I am actually doing a dance with both dads but the dance with my stepdad is a surprise. The thing is my stepdad and my mom helped us pay for the wedding and my dad didn't help us at all (Yes I know he doesn't have to because well we are adults). We didn't actually expect my mom and stepdad to help us pay for anything and they paid for HALF of the wedding because they insisted so we agreed. I just feel like they deserve to be honored on our wedding day for helping us financially. If it weren't for them we wouldn't have been able to have such a fancy wedding. It is essentially my dream wedding that I never thought I would be able to afford but thanks to them I was able to. I am actually doing a surprise mother-daughter dance too.

ETA: Grammar

I'm having my dad and my mom's boyfriend that has been with my mom since I was 5 years old, walk me down the aisle. I just asked my dad, by saying, that Wayne (my mom's boyfriend) has also been a huge male figure in my life and I asked him how he felt sharing that moment with him, as he doesn't have any kids of his own and this would most likely be his only opportunity. My dad was like, Sure! I have no problem with that. I also plan to do my father daughter dance with my dad first and midway through the song, dance with my mom's boyfriend as well.

@Victoria That is awesome. Maybe I can approach him like that as well. Each my dad and stepdad will get a full song but I chose short ones haha

I think you should have them both walk you the whole way rather than a little way each

If I were in your case, I would have just asked my Mom.

I walked with both parents, which is the norm in our family/social circle.

I vote your step dad first half and Dad second half! That is probably what I'll do. My stepdad has raised me since I was 7.

But now I'm leaning toward having my stepdad drive me (he offered) and him walk me all the way until the aisle starts. Then have my dad take me from there.

The way our ceremony will be set up is people will be able to see me walking from sort of far. I haven't decided yet but if I don't do that then it'll definitely be half and half.

I’m finding this discussion because I searched “stepdad” and am finding myself in the exact same situation. So Mrs. Cordova (or anyone else who commented)—what did you end up doing? And how did it go over?

Hi Emily! So my stepdad ended up giving me away! There was no sharing my dad with my father because he actually got kicked out of the venue before the wedding even started! It was horrible. My dad and I didnt speak for 6 months after my wedding, but we didn't let it ruin our day. My father was the talk of the night unfortunately but it was a beautiful day!

Here are some pictures of us!