Step sister/ bridesmaid chaos

Do you want to ever have a relationship with your sisters? Kicking them out will end any hope of a relationship with either of them. I'm going to assume you don't give a shit about them though, since you admit to asking them as "fillers". Filler is something you use to take up space, not a member of your family. I'd be hurt if I were them.

Kicking them out will not help mend your relationship with them. Instead of using them to take your mind off of your wedding (which makes you sound selfish AF), try calling them and seeing what's going on in their lives.

Slow down. You don't, as a mature adult, ask anyone -- regardless of their relation to you -- to be an honor attendant, and then, because of a bump in the road, kick them out. Accept it. The ladies you asked to be your BMs ARE your BMs. Unless they commit a crime or physically assault you or your loved ones, you live up to the covenant you made. You don't get to grade BMs. You just don't.

The fact that you asked two of your six BMs, who happen to be your step-sisters, to be honor attendants because they were "fillers" sounds callous and self-serving. Why would you ask any woman to be a filler? Are these women props, or did you just want even numbers? Is there any possibility that one or both of them -- neither of which have middle names that you can remember -- have picked up your "filler" vibe?

Why you decided to call all of your six BMs and ask them to reach out to you so that you could get your mind off of your self-imposed wedding stress is kind of ridiculous. These women, if they acquiesce to your plea, are only calling because they are your BRIDESMAIDS, the women you chose to stand with at your wedding. Would their phone calls have seemed genuine to you, or would they have been just fulfilling their BM duties? Your youngest sister didn't call you, as per your request. So, what did you do? You called her. She obviously wasn't interested in spending her time trying to get your mind off of wedding planning, and somehow, that phone call deteriorated to the point of her "going off on" you (and I'm sure you got a few good jabs in as well). How well did the other five women perform?

Now, you're judging the other sister by the response of the first, and you're ready to kick them both out of your wedding. Are you serious? What were you expecting beyond having these two sisters purchase the correct dress, donate to and attend either a shower or a BP, and attending a long day acting as your honor attendants? Nobody, not a single woman in your bridal party, has to call you and play therapist because you're stressed about the wedding you've planned. Every woman in that party has their own lives, significant others, stresses, worries, homes, careers, etc. You asked too much, and when you didn't get what you wanted, you called one step-sister and visited your wedding woes on her. She didn't appreciate it, and neither would I. Quite simply, you asked too much.

You don't get to kick them out, and if you do, you're the one who will seriously judged -- not them.

Live with your choices, or be labeled correctly by your family (and friends, once they find out what you did -- and they will).

I feel there is so much missing out of this post

So you have 2 step sisters who you hate as bridesmaids because you needed to fill in 2 spots to make your bridal party even? Now you want to kick them out because they continue having the strained relationship with you just like before? Did I get that right? Well sorry to say but you brought this on yourself if that is the case. You asked them, they got the dress, end of story. You can't kick them out now unless they majorly did something wrong like steal from you.

At the risk of this 1-star double ring post being a planted post to stir the pot...Um, what about if instead of saying something like, 'help me take my mind off the wedding' you reached out and said "Hey! We haven't had a chance to hang out in a while...Lunch Saturday?" And at said lunch, you don't bring up anything wedding elated. Essentially, you hang out like normal friends/sisters.

Wtf. Fillers?! They are your SISTERS.

Sisters...Family...not fillers.

You were reaching out in the first place, why didn't you take the time to ask them about what's going on in their lives to get your mind off things? Set up a phone date with them. You can't expect other people to be mind readers and know when you're stressed.

At this point you've asked them to be in the bridal party already so you can't kick them out. You brought this on yourself by trying to make your bridal party even.

You lost me at fillers.