Step Siblings

Do you want to have a relationship with them? If not, which is fine, I don't think you need to invite them.

Yea, I'd definitely invite them.

If you're not close then no. I've had a stepmom for 18 years so I am inviting her parents and her siblings and their spouses, but I am not inviting any step cousins. I was not invited to a step cousins wedding who's getting married three weeks after me. Makes me feel better because I really don't need to feel bad.

I was in the same boat (they were already adults 15 years older than me when my stepdad married my mom and I've only met them a couple times over 15 years). I didn't invite, and I think they'd have been surprised if I had.

I'd definitely invite them, whether you know them well or not they are still family. My parents divorced and remarried when I was young. They both remarried someone with one daughter. Those are my sisters, I've never thought of them as anything else. I guess I'm lucky they remarried when I was young enough to not know there was a difference.

I would definitely invite them.

I'm not inviting mine. My dad mentioned it would be nice if I did, however I've only met one of them once and wasn't invited to their weddings. My dad and stepmom have been married 13 years, but her kids were adults and we were teens when they married.

I would look at it as whether you want to make the gesture for your step-parent.

Melissa, although my situation isn't quite as drastic, it's along those lines. Thanks for the input!

I'd extend the invitation, at the very least, under the logic that if you're not that close with them as you say you are, they'll decline; but that's just me and what I would do. I don't see a problem in not inviting them.

Also, if your wedding is in July 2018, your relationship with them could change. I'd put them on the drafted list (just in case) and then revisit this when it's time for the invitations. See how you feel then. It sounds like you'll probably take them off, though, which is fine.

My dad remarried about 4 years ago. My stepmom has 2 daughters that I have no relationship with so they're not invited.

I don't think that you have to invite them if you hardly even know them. If you're all adults and don't necessarily seek any relationship with them I don't see the point in inviting them

I vote for not inviting people with whom you have no actual relationship and only the slimmest of technical relationships.

I would definitely invite them. Think of how hurt your step parents will be to know their children aren't invited.

I have a similar situation. We aren't inviting them because we've only met them once or twice, and my mother told me not to. (It's her partner's children).

@A.L. I'm not sure why, but the way you worded that made me giggle. I wouldn't be surprised if my mother ends up saying the same thing. Perhaps I should just call her now lol

For others in this situation, in the past I've thought of my "relationship" with them to be equivalent to that of my parents and inlaws. Friendly with each other, both important to me, but not necessarily family to each other.

My step father has two daughters who only call him when they want something. I've only met them a handful of times and they're rude to my mother. Although I planned to his invite his mother and step father, my mother also insisted I invite his siblings and their spouses. I agreed but didn't give up the fight over inviting his kids. They won't be coming and I don't feel bad at all. I think it would be uncomfortable with them watching their father give me away.

If everyone was an adult when your parents remarried, I think you are under no obligation to invite them. They are not your family.

If you were raised together (even partially) like some of the above posters, that would be a totally different story. But you have no relation to these people.

Any adult who gets upset by this is just being a drama queen.

Called my mom. She couldn't care less. If she were to have two extra invites, she'd rather her friend come anyways.

Will tackle this with dad soon.

If you aren't close with them and/or they live far away, it's unlikely they will come, but I would still extend the invitation. You never know, it could be an olive branch that would foster a relationship between all of you!

@Katie - if you have a stepdaughter and your husband is invited to the stepdaughter's wedding (eg his daughter) you should also be invited to the wedding.

Unless you were literally the "other woman" in a very recent infidelity scandal, there is zero excuse for not inviting one half of a social unit.

If you also had adult children, of course there would be no expectation that your adult children would be invited to FH's adult child's wedding. But anything to which your FH is invited you should absolutely be invited to as well.