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Anisea
Master July 2014

Step-parents, Ex-Step-parents and new step parents where to seat/processional?

Anisea, on November 1, 2013 at 7:45 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 8

I have seven parents now: Stepdad and mom raised me, then divorced and mom remarried-my dad is attending with his new wife, and dads ex wife was my lifelong stepmom, and my fiance's parents are dad and stepmom, and mom. I want all of them to feel honored and part of it, Anyone with multiple parents how did you deal with the dad daughter dance/giving away the bride? Obviously they are going to be seated as far away from eachother as possible. I can of course walk down the aisle solo, and scrap a parental procession. Anyone go through similar issues?

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Latest activity by CaitlinWife, on November 6, 2013 at 3:01 PM
  • WasSoon2Bmrs
    Expert July 2014
    WasSoon2Bmrs ·
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    I read somewhere before that (for the ceremony) some brides had one person start walking them down and the other person meet them halfway ... At my first wedding I had my dad & brother both walk me down (well they were kind of behind me)

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  • Anisea
    Master July 2014
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    Maybe my brother can walk me, that way the three dads arent insulted

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  • Mrs. Katie J
    Super October 2013
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    My husband and I had a similar situation; I'll try to keep this as simple as possible!

    I have my mother and father, and my husband has his biological father, who is married to my husband's step mother, my husband's step father (technically ex-step father, because he divorced his biological mother years ago) who he is very close to that had his girlfriend with him, and in March, my husband's biological mother passed away suddenly, so she was not in attendance. So we had 7 people to recognize.

    Both my mother and his step mother were formally escorted to their seats by our ushers. For our unity candle lighting, my mother lit my candle, and we had his step mother stand-in for his biological mother to light his. For a rose presentation when I was given away, we gave roses to my mother, his step mother, and his step father's girlfriend. For his mother/son dance, we had his step mother, his aunt (his mother's sister), and my mother, to represent his mother.

    Good Luck!! Smiley smile

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  • P
    Expert December 2013
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    My FH dad just got married (they didn't date long before). FH does not want her to be recognized in the wedding at all. I am fine with that, not a very big fan myself. But since his brother will be the one marrying us, he said he wants to walk down the aisle with his brother and father. I know it's not quite the same situation as you, but kinda...

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  • Mrs. Katie J
    Super October 2013
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    Also, we listed them all in our programs under "Parents of the Groom", in an even fashion, with names only (not titles), to keep everyone equal. We did list his biological mother and father on the first line and tiered it down from there.

    We also sat them all in the front row, my parents on my side, with my mother next to the aisle and my father next to her (they are divorced, by the way) and we sat his parents as follows starting from the aisle, step mother, biological father, step father's girlfriend, step father. Smiley winking

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  • Anisea
    Master July 2014
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    Im afraid to seat them near eachother, theyre all fiesty, so I think maybe the processional will be bridesmaids only? still considering options, honestly im praying any drama goes down out of the limelight. Thanks ladies for your input!

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  • P
    Dedicated May 2014
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    This was nice to read. I've worried for many years how to go about wedding plans with divorced parents who don't get along with each other. We haven't done the seating chart yet, but we plan to have them all as far apart from each other as possible. Unfortunately, in my case, I also have to keep certain parents away from 1 whole side of a family (my mothers) due to the fiestiness. Good luck!

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  • CaitlinWife
    VIP November 2013
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    Holy hell, bless your heart. Yeah, I'd say seat them all. Let them go in as couples and you do it yourself, unless there is someone you really want. Or a brother? Uncle? Cousin?

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