Step-Parent wording on Programs

I totally understand (my father has a tendency to go "stage 5 clinger" and get close -albeit only married/divorced twice) and I never know if he's still with the woman I last met.

Although I totally agree with you, I think for his sake, you would add her in. I would do it as more like "mother Jane and step father John, father James and wife Janine" then at least there's no recognition as a step parent, but still recognized as your fathers wife.

Sorry if this doesn't help much! Good luck!

I would put her in the program. If you don't, it may create unneccessary drama. Both FI and my parents are divorced and remarried... with both of us not being that close with our stepmom's. But the way we've tackled all the wedding related things with them, is that it's better to make the effort to include them, it doesn't do any harm and it seems petty not to.

If the theory behind programs is partly because people want to know who everyone is, then in she goes.

Danielle nailed it.

Danielle, that is perfect. Thank you so much! And that is exactly what I call her, too: "my dad's wife." I reserve "step-mom" for the woman he married before her! Great wording. Thanks again!