Step Mother of the Groom

I would include her into the fold. If she is involved and has a good relationship with him and you then I believe she should be included. Hope both ladies act civil for their son/step son.

I invited my stepmom to get ready with us just to be nice but was relieved she said no. She and my mom do not get along in the slightest. I gave her a corsage, reserved ceremony seat carefully spaced away from my mom, and thank you gifts. All my gifts were presented privately so there wasn’t any comparing.

I’d ask your FH what his thoughts are. See how he feels about it all.

As the step mom of a 20 year old son and very close to both of them, I would be so upset if she didn't invite me to get ready with her too.

My husband's mother and his stepmother got ready with us, and my stepfather got ready with my husband, his dad, and my dad. From the beginning, I informed all the parents we weren't interested in dealing with adult tantrums if they didn't want to be around their ex husband's/wife's significant other, so if they couldn't handle it they should just skip the wedding. I wasn't going to exclude family to protect someone's childish feelings.

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Posts like this make me wish Wedding Wire had a Like button. That's how I would have handled it, too!

OP, if Stepmom is very involved in the wedding, then she deserves to be invited to get ready with everyone else. Both Mom and Stepmom will just have to deal with it, and act like adults that day. Otherwise, they can decline the invitation.

If his mother and step-mother are not on speaking terms, I would speak with FH before making any decisions.

I think I’m going to include her in everything since she is very involved and close to us. If she declines because the mom will be there, that’s ok but at least I offered! Thank you all for the advice!