Step Mother of the Groom

I would probably have your FH's step-mom walk in with his dad. She can sit next to him during the ceremony. Perhaps in a separate row if that would make everyone more comfortable.

I would have his father walk in with his stepmother. Then just seat them on opposite sides, just don't specify sides by bride or groom!

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This is a great Idea

I would sit the Stepmom with his dad in the first row (or whichever row you're putting them). They could be on one end, and his real mom on the other end of same row. Can you have his dad & Stepmom walk in together?

I would think the dad & stepmom walk in together. And they would all sit in the same row. I am sure FMIL is going to be uncomfortable no matter what, so she is going to have to just deal with it.

I would have your FFIL and his wife walk in together and take a seat. Then have your FMIL escorted in and she takes a seat in the same pew.

Hopefully they can all put differences aside for that day and celebrate the two of you! If they start to give you guys a hassle, kindly remind them that you didn't choose this, they did. You are just left to deal with the aftermath!

If she has to walk down the isle have her walk down with her husband. But otherwise she doesn’t have to walk down. She could already be sitting in the front row. And she would sit next to her husband.

But you typically reserve the first few rows for family, not necessarily name tagged. So his mom might make note of sitting a few seats away from her anyways.

I have the same question but unfortunately the stepmom is mine so she can’t walk in with my dad bc he’ll walk in with me...idk what to do!

View Quoted Comment It’s so hard to figure it out. I don’t want to offend anyone. What I forgot to mention in my post is that his dad is also his best man so he will be standing up with us during the ceremony! That leaves the two moms to sit together 😖 lol. Let me know what you decide on!

View Quoted Comment Well I know seating wise I’m having my mom at the end of the row aisle side and then putting my grandparents and brothers girlfriend in between and then my dad and then my stepmom at the opposite end of the row and they will have name tags on their seats. But walking in has been a whole separate issue.

If they can’t sit next to each other and be civil adults for your wedding ceremony, they need to grow up. You aren’t asking them to speak to each other, just exist in the same space. It may be a tough discussion but I would have him ask his mother her thoughts

View Quoted Comment I'm in the same boat! I'm thinking of having both my mom and step mom walked down the isle by members of the wedding party but I don't really have a relationship with my step mom so it feels weird to me to highlight her. She's a nice person though, and means a lot to my dad so I feel like I should have her escorted... decisions, decisions!

View Quoted Comment Yep and then I feel weird having my stepmom walk down and not my stepdad but idk if he wants to but I don’t want to assume he doesn’t and leave him out ughhh

No, step mom should not be walked in by groom unless they have a super special and close relationship. Her husband, grooms father should walk her in. That is completely acceptable. She should be seated next to her husband as his wife, no matter how close it is to the grooms mother. They need to get over that crap for the half hour ceremony. If they must sit in separate rows then fine, but should be adults and get over it.

Mother of the groom needs to suck it up and deal with it, period, end of discussion. It is not about her and not her day. I would shut that down right now.

One of your ushers , or a male family member, walks her in. As father of the bride will sit down beside her, when you reach the altar, he needs a seat reserved in the front row, or aisle of one of front rows. Your Dad is her escort for the entire evening, though his brief role walking with you means she will be seated alone next to his reserved place during the processional.

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I am a stepmom and will be dealing with this issue in a few weeks. With my stepdaughter wedding I walked down the aisle with my stepson, but it is his wedding now and I will be walking down the aisle with his father, my husband. I have a very close relationship with him and his siblings. As for sitting together his mother just has to suck it up for the 40 minutes and I have no problem telling her if she starts to complain at the rehearsal.

If you don't want the step mom and mom in the same pew I would put his mom and brother in the first pew and her in the 2nd pew you can sit other family members with them to fill the pews out. She can walk in with the dad, an usher, an uncle , a cousin anyone really or she can already be seated. What ever you are comfortable with. Even if they don't get along I hope out of respect for you and your partner they can be mature adults for a day.