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Candace
Dedicated April 2015

Step mother of the bride question

Candace, on November 7, 2014 at 9:06 AM Posted in Planning 0 12

I was looking into getting the silk robes from wedding prep gals to take pictures in while getting dressed. I was only getting one for me, FH's mother, and my step mother. Problem is the regular ones say Mother of the Bride or Mother of the Groom which is fine for the groom but my mother passed away 2 years ago and its been hard planning a wedding without her. My step mother has really stepped up and been there but I don't want to negate the memory of my mother by giving my stepmother a robe that say "Mother of the bride". I was thinking about putting Step-Mother of the bride but didn't know if she would feel some type of way because of how it sounds i guess. I haven't asked her because I wanted it to be apart of the gifts I give them the night before at the rehearsal dinner. Do you guys have any suggestions on how I should word it or what I should do? Have you had to make decisions on things like this before? How did you handle it? Thanks in advance.

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Latest activity by Jennifer, on July 23, 2018 at 3:21 PM
  • FutureMrsC
    VIP December 2015
    FutureMrsC ·
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    Maybe get her something with her name on it or just don't personalize it.

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  • Candace
    Dedicated April 2015
    Candace ·
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    Their names would be on the front and title on the back. I already had other personal things for each one. I just wanted to add this too. Thanks

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  • Jillian
    Master May 2015
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    What if you did something more general like 'brides entourage' or something like that. personally I don't like 'step mother of the bride'. My mom passed earlier this year and it's been so hard trying to grieve and plan a wedding. I'm still deciding if I'm going to ask my close aunt to be there with me and help me get ready. If so I will get her some things I'm getting my bridesmaids, but I think I will do something general. I've read a lot of the forums where then brides have given personal things like this they rarely use them again. A robe at home might be one thing, but they may be more likely to use it again if it didn't have 'bridesmaids' or anything like that on the back. Maybe just do their name or monogram on the front? Just a suggestion.

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  • Candace
    Dedicated April 2015
    Candace ·
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    Ok thanks. I thought it would look good for pictures purposes just the 3 of us but that was it mainly. For my bridesmaids I have just gotten them things with their name on it nothing to do with the wedding. So I get what your saying. I may just nix the whole idea. Thanks ladies

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  • Jess
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    I'd skip the personalization. Not only to avoid the awkwardness, but they'd be more usable for the future.

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  • MrsDean
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    I agree with Jess. Skip the titles and just personalize with their names. That way the robe is always tied to your wedding, but is a gift they can use for years to come.

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  • Mallori
    Expert January 2015
    Mallori ·
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    Slightly related question... would you do Mrs. Soandso or your first name on your own?

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  • Candace
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    @mallori. I did Mrs. Shakir on the back with the date and My Intitial on the front.

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  • Mallori
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    Thanks!

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  • MrsPope
    Master September 2015
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    That's a tough one. Do you call her by her name? If so I would just use personal name instead of titles.

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  • Candace
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    I call her Miss Faye. I've done so since I was younger but me and my sister are the only ones who call her that

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  • J
    Just Said Yes November 2018
    Jennifer ·
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    We used Bonus Mom of the Bride. It was better than Step Mom.

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