Step-Mother in Law

Why not just get the aunt and uncle something since they were the ones that raised him and maybe the dad if your FH wants to since the step mom didn't come in the picture till later on

We aren't sure if the aunt and uncle are going to be able to come - they live in California. I plan on sending them gifts regardless but his Dad and SM are the main parental figures in his life now and have been for the last couple of years. I've talked with them a lot (had an hour long phone conversation with his dad this morning!) but the aunt and uncle are a lot more shy and haven't really responded to a lot of our attempts to contact them about wedding stuff.

I kind of disagree. I think all four of them should receive gifts, because it's not just about the past but also the present and the relationships you two want with them going forward. I would get her a bracelet or necklace. Macy's, Kohl's, and probably a bunch of other stores have those stirling silver "inspirational" necklaces and bracelets and a lot of them are "family". I think that should work just fine. They aren't super expensive either. Even a plain one would work. I blame pinterest for everyone thinking gifts need to have cute sayings and thank yous on them. I'd get them gifts, and just write a nice note thanking them for being in his life now.

Lol I blame pinterest too!!!

What about just wedding photo albums?

I want to make sure that they have a gift at the wedding - wedding albums wouldn't be ready until later. Since the wedding is in November, albums might make good Christmas gifts for our parents

Make sure they both have flowers (corsage & boutonniere).

Just buy as if you were shopping for their birthdays. What kind of stuff do they like?

I already planned on the flowers - the "birthday" idea is nice but I want to get them something that revolves around the wedding itself (especially with Christmas coming so close I don't want to just do a generic gift).