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Just Said Yes September 2020

Step Mother in Law Gifts?

Vivien, on February 21, 2020 at 3:06 AM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 5

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So I’m trying to do gifts for the day of the wedding for everyone. I have nice little necklaces picked out for my Mom and my future mother in law that say the titles on the box or whatever, but I am having trouble finding one for my FH’s step mom. But I also don’t want it to say bonus mom or anything because my FH was an adult when his dad got remarried and he never lived under my future step MIL’s roof. Like, they are not super close and I’m not super close to her. I also don’t want to offend her because my FH also has kind of a surrogate Mom that he is the closest to and I want to get her a nice gift too, probably one that says “Bonus Mom.” I am closer to my actual future MIL and the surrogate mom, but I do not want to offend the Step Mom. Help!!!

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Latest activity by MrsD, on February 21, 2020 at 11:33 AM

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Rebelle Fleur · on February 21, 2020 at 6:32 AM
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Maybe just “Another Mother” ?
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Rebelle Fleur · on February 21, 2020 at 6:34 AM
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Maybe just “Another Mother” ? You guys may not be that close but she’s still technically a motherly figure for him. I’d still put something with mother on the title. This would probably make her feel more included and seen as an invitation for you guys to build a stronger relationship.
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Cindy · on February 21, 2020 at 7:18 AM
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You need to include her. Maybe do hers a less formal ie mom instead of mother. Or maybe instead of having the word horizontal, hers would be a diagonal. As a "step" I can tell you that it is hard to know how close or what kind of relationship anyone wants to have with you. If they even acknowledge you. This could be a great opportunity to start building a relationship with her.
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Christine · on February 21, 2020 at 9:22 AM
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Don't stiff the Step Mom. Even if it seems a stretch to call her "Mother in Law" at this point, you will be doing a good deed by including her as equally as all the other mother-figures in your FH's life. As a Step-Mom to be, it is painful to not be thought of the same as the other parents, and it happens more frequently than you would think.
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MrsD · on February 21, 2020 at 11:33 AM
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We got my husband's stepmom a necklace with a tree on it and it had a quote about family. I wrote her a letter, and we got her a tote too (like all the moms & bridesmaids got). She got ready with his in the morning too.
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