Step kids the night of the wedding

Yikes. Listen, I don’t know how realistic his idea is that he will not see his kids for years and then have them overnight - whatever the custody situation, the first overnight visit being your wedding night is odd timing. Lots of blended families take kids in the honeymoon, happens all the time. But the first day you meet them, and the first time in years he’s seen them....this has disaster written all over it.

If you haven’t talked about it, you should discuss it with him.
Sounds like he’s just so excited to see his kids when he hasn’t gotten to see them in a long time and I honestly can understand that.
He might just be getting a little overzealous with the whole thing because he’s so excited. Tell him how you’re feeling about it, at least for the wedding night that would make more sense as some time just for the two of you.

I'd be more concerned that your FH let years go by without seeing his kids, and is now letting an overdue family reunion trump your wedding festivities.


Did he at least have phone calls with them? Are they long distance? Did he fight for custody in court? Is he complacent in general?
If you've never met these kids before, and it's been that long since he's seen them, I agree it could make for a very awkward wedding night.
He should have the kids come over sooner so everyone can get aquainted, then enforce regular visitation.

You both should have them visit, more than once, before the wedding. Are they changing homes? if not it does not make sense to have them on your honeymoon. Perhaps you need a shorter honey moon that is all for you and your husband, and then a shorter family vacation with them. For your marriage, and for their being the focus of attention during their visits, not trying to share attention.