Step-Grandparents Flowers?? & Vent/Embarrassing Moment

I don't think it's necessary

Will they be invited to the wedding? How do his step-parents feel about it?

We invited FH's step-grandmother to our wedding but did not plan to get her a corsage or anything. FH is not close with her. She ended up declining her invite anyway.

Probably not, but I'd ask FH what he thinks!

Vent/Embarrassing Moment:

When she got to the grandparents part, and asked how many there were, I started thinking in my head and instantly started getting choked up. Because I only have 1 grandma on my side But she lives on the other side of the country from me, and always has, so we aren't super close. But my mom's parents both passed away last year on the same day. It was totally unexpected and very hard to deal with because I was EXTREMELY close with them. I spend almost everyday with them as a kid because my mom was a single mom for the first 5 years of my childhood. So they helped raise me. When the passed, it was so hard for me because it was such a shock. And I had to lose them both on the same day.

So when the vendor was talking to me about grandparent flowers, I started to get choked up and had to walk outside for a minute to collect myself. Luckily she was amazing and super sweet. But it still was a bit embarrassing to start crying during my first meeting with her! Hoping this was just a one time thing and I just needed to get my feelings out of the way.

I would. One more corsage and boutonniere aren't that expensive, and I wouldn't want to upset any grandparents (step or not). They're likely not expecting it and will be really touched by the gesture. ETA just saw the rest of your post. Both my grandmothers died before my wedding day (including the one who helped raise me). Our florist appointment happened to fall on the anniversary of my closer grandmother's death, so I couldn't hold back the tears after the florist asked about my grandparents and I said "I don't have any." I would guess that happens a lot! A wedding is such a special and emotional time. Tears (both happy and sad) are okay!

From what I understand, they do plan on attending the wedding. However we have a ways before we know for certain.

I am including mine but they have been in my life since I was 10. I would ask FH about it.

I got flowers for both of our step-grandmothers. His has been in his life since he was 2, but mine married my grandpa only a few years ago. I looked at it from my own perspective of being someone's step-kid who was always excluded from family stuff on my step-mom's side because they didn't consider us "real" family. That hurts. A lot.

I think it's entirely up to you, but if it is in your budget I would say do it. It will mean so much to them!

ETA - FH's step-grandma is the mother of his step-mom and mine is the wife of my step-mom's dad.

I think it depends on how close you are, I'd ask FH. I've never met my step-grandparents, so to me that's a no.

Wait - now I'm confused what you mean by step-grandparents. Are they married to his biological grandparent or are they his step-dad/mom's parents. To me, that makes a difference.

I asked my DH whether he wanted to honor his step-grandparents with a corsage and boutonniere and he said yes, so I included them in the floral order and we included them in the parent and grandparent processional. However, his mom remarried when he was in middle school, so they've been a part of his life since he was still a kid. They've actually been like grandparents to him, which is why he felt including them was necessary.

I'd ask your FH what he wants to do and go with that.

Ms. B -> Mrs. L - they are his step-mom's parents and his step-dad's parents. So not married to his biological grandparents in any way.

I see... To me, that makes it different. FH's mom and step-dad got married 6 years ago. We are giving step-dad a boutonniere because he is married to FH's mom. We invited step-dad's parents but did not plan to give them any flowers. I don't think it's necessary.

Is it nice? Sure. Necessary or something to feel bad about? No

Hugs to you OP. I can't imagine losing 2 grandparents on the same day No wonder you got choked up thinking about them. As for the step grandparents, I think it would be a nice gesture to include them regardless of how close you are. They would certainly appreciate the nice gesture.

Include them, if you are unsure about their attendance, consider asking the florist to make a note of it, this way if they don't come, when you finalize, you don't have to take them.

Hugs to you. I've had the same thing (getting choked up about my grandparents) happen twice. First during a dress fitting when the seamstress asked about my accessories (I'm wearing my grandmother's earrings) and again when we talked about our ceremony mass with our priest and he asked about including deceased family members in a prayer.

As happy as weddings are, it's easy to get sad about who won't be there, especially when the pain is fresh. My grandmother died in December (after I got engaged) and I really thought she'd be at the wedding. I know those moments can hit you unexpectedly. Nothing to be embarrassed about!

Hugs. I would ask FH, but would likely not get corsages/bouts for them.

Ask your FH whether he wants to get flowers for them

I would get them. It's a nice gesture and will probably earn you some respect from the family. If you don't, they may feel slighted. We got flowers for all VIP and their SO. The steps were honored they were included.