Savvy June 2018

Step father ring bearer?

Danielle, on June 14, 2018 at 2:32 AM Posted in Wedding Reception 0 10
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I'd like for my step father to have a part in our wedding (however not overdo the part of my father), we were thinking about having him as our ring bearer. Any ideas? Other ladies with similar plans?


  • Disneysue
    Devoted September 2018
    You could go Ring Security. Dark suit, dark glasses, briefcase handcuffed to wrist. You could also have him do a reading during the ceremony. You could also just ask him. I have 2 brothers and we have a small wedding party (10 includes FH & I). I want about to tell my FH that they had to be in the party, since they barely know each other. (FH and I have lived in another state for the majority of our relationship). So I asked them how involved they wanted to be. I didn't want them feeling left out, but I didn't want them to feel put upon either. I have things they can do. They both said they would be happy just watching me have the best day of my life. 馃槉
  • Janel
    Super September 2018
    I would give him a reading if anything at all. I agree that asking him might be the way to go
  • A
    Expert September 2019
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    Second this notion! Also it doesn鈥檛 have to be a religious reading if you鈥檙e not religious. You can search for inspirational quotes or short stories that you and your FH connect with: it would make it all the more meaningful!
  • B11
    Super May 2019
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    Oh please no ring security. I cringe when I see children doing this. I can鈥檛 imagine a grown man wanting to dress up like this.

    I agree with PPs that a reading would be nice!
  • Jennifer
    Super August 2019

    I have him meeting me halfway down the aisle to continue walking with us--- I already explained to my dad he's important and they both helped in raising me so I want them both to be represented on the day of.

  • Mrs. Fall Bride
    Master October 2016
    Mrs. Fall Bride

    That's normally a role for a little kid, so unless he specifically asked to be a ring bearer, I find it a bit demeaning.

    Why not share a spotlight dance with your stepdad after you dance with your dad? That's what I did. Or, you could have just your dad escort you for the first half of your procession, and have your stepdad waiting halfway down the aisle to join you, and then the three of you walk the rest of the way.

  • FutureMrsD
    Legend July 2019

    My stepfather is walking my mom down the aisle in the beginning of the processional!

  • Lindsey
    VIP June 2018
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    Yeah, I don't like that either. he can maybe walk down with your mother and do a reading or quote?

    maybe a speech at the reception

  • Danielle
    Savvy June 2018
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    What kind of reading? How would that work? Would he just go up to the pastor and say something during the ceremony? Sorry i just dont know how this works haha
  • A
    Expert September 2019
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    Don鈥檛 apologize! Those are really good questions! It is something that is planned ahead of time. Readings are very common in church settings, so you would ask the pastor what passage from the Bible they would recommend and ask your step dad if he would like to do it ahead of time. If you鈥檙e not doing it in a church setting you would still ask your officiant/pastor ahead of time so you can know the timeline flow and when he would be able to do a reading. I personally haven鈥檛 done any of this but I plan on asking my officiant to say a prayer so I am going to plan that with him a head of time. Hope this kind of sort of helps!

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