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Step father of the groom gift problems

Kim, on August 17, 2020 at 8:33 AM Posted in Planning 0 4

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My SO doesn't want his father around for our wedding, so the closest thing to a father that will be present is his step father. I am.trying to find a gift for him, but I have no idea what to get the man who married his mom 4 years ago and doesn't really know him nor was he around for any of his up bringing. (I think his mom met the guy when he was 25 and in the military) Everything I find is along the lines of "thank you for raising me as your own". And neither of us know the guy well enough to pick something that we know he would like. Any ideas on what to do in this situation?

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Latest activity by Judith, on August 17, 2020 at 10:43 AM

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Stacey · on August 17, 2020 at 8:43 AM
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I might be out on a limb here, but if they aren't close and he isn't really a father figure, I would question whether you really need to give him a gift? Unless he and your SO's mother are contributing financially to the wedding. It is very kind of you to consider including him, but if you're having such a hard time (and refer to him as "the guy," Lol), I would pass and just focus on parents.
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Yasmine · on August 17, 2020 at 8:51 AM
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You can always just ask his mother what her husband likes. That's probably the easiest route to take.
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Samantha · on August 17, 2020 at 9:07 AM
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I totally agree with Stacey, I would skip the gift. If you're deadset on giving him one, you don't have to go with a "wedding" present, just get him something you know he'll enjoy. If you don't know what that is, get him a card and a gift certificate to a restaurant you know they like.
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Judith · on August 17, 2020 at 10:43 AM
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Parent gifts are not a traditional thing at weddings. ( Except framed pics or albums given after the wedding.) They are among the many new gift giving occasions at weddings that TV and the wedding industry have recently dreamed up. Traditionally, at weddings, parents give gifts to the couple. That is it. If you really want to give these unnecessary gifts, just be honest. The tone for his would be, you have been a welcome addition to the family ( vs. thank you for raising me.) Something that he would use for a hobby or leisure time would do. Small binoculars or opera glasses for someone into sports, to use at games, or enjoy nature?
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