Step Brother's and Sister's Children

It's one way or the other...all or none!

You can draw a line at only including children who are relatives on the guest list. That is a clear cut and understandable line.

Kids are not all or none.

So basically your FHs step nieces and nephews? If all the children would be Nieces and nephews then I honestly don't see the problem.

I think it would be shitty to allow your nephew and his niece but not steps. UNLESS there are other non-step nieces/nephews who are not invited, if that's the case then you can easily say that only children in the wedding are allowed.

Children are NOT all or nothing.

We had this same issue. We invited FH's nephews but not his step-nephews (his step brother's children). He just is not as close to step-nephews as he is to his nephews.

It is ok to do that depending on family dynamics.

Do what you gotta do for yourself but realize that you may get shit for it. I think including bios but not steps is really hard to explain to children. As a step kid it would just seem like another clue as to not really being part of a family.

I'm sorry and maybe I have a different take on it but if I found out my stepdads nieces and nephews were all invited and not me and my brother it wouldn't occur to me that it's because we're not as close to whomever, but it would just hurt. We need to take care with decisions we make as they really impact children's self-views.

Please invite them. It's not like they are all adults and be came extended family at that time. They are children and they need to be included and feel included, loved, and part of the family.

ETA: IMO the children are still your nieces and nephews and it is ok to invite them and not other children

Here's food for thought, my FH has two nephews that have the same mom. One we see all the time because he lives with my in laws, the other I've met twice. He doesn't know our side of the family because he lives with his dad's grandparents. He gets very anxious and shy around us and even his own mother so we are not inviting him to the wedding and he's blood. If they're traveling as far as you say they are, I think you should allow them on the invite. I wouldn't travel that far from home without my kids

Eleanor did you read what she posted? She wants to include the stepfamily. She just isn't sure if she needs to now open it up to ANY guest who has kids.

No, you don't have to open it up to all guests. You can leave it at just relatives only. You can also offer babysitting for the younger kids at the hotel that they will be staying at.

While it may be fair to only include family. The other guests that are coming without children are not going to know that those are all your nieces or nephews. They are just going to see a bunch of children there and think that their children were excluded for some reason. I think either just stick with the two kids in the wedding or invite all of them.

Thank you to the few that understood my rant. The step nieces and nephews WILL BE INVITED, I was asking about the other quests and if I needed to invite their children as well. On second count, there is about 50 children to these baby boomers on our list, so it's going to be a HARD NO. Thank you to everyone for responding.

Good luck! Great decision!!

Hello. I found your post today. I am reeling from what happened with my current husband's family over the weekend. His grown son, who used to live with him the whole time we were dating, got married to the lady he met while we were dating. I have known both of them for five years. My son plays with my husband's grandkids, the wedding couple's nieces and nephews, almost weekly. Those nieces and nephews are invited to the wedding. I thought it was an adult-only morning. Two weeks ago the grandkids we're here playing and my stepdaughter mentioned needing clothes for the kids for the wedding. I asked my husband for two weeks to find out if the policy had changed to include children. After he procrastinated and did not ask the question, I sent a text to the bride, who communicates by text almost exclusively. Both her and my step-son replied to me to say there was no space for my son and if he was disappointed, he could join the others who are disappointed for not being invited. Basically, I felt I had to protect my son's feelings because he knows about the wedding and he has seen Facebook pictures of everyone at the wedding enjoying themselves. Especially, the children who play with him weekly, the grandkids / nieces and nephews. The couple feel that I divided the family by asking if my son was invited. They say I was insensitive and adding stress to pose my question three days before the wedding. I honestly did not know kids were going. I did not go to the wedding and my son stayed with his father while I hosted people in our house all weekend. My son lives here and saw the preparations. Vanessa, I am wondering how you resolved it. Did you invite the stepchildren? What were the feelings afterwards. My husband is standing in what could I have done land and is lashing out at me and defending his kids actions. He wavers between telling me they were wrong and uncharacteristically yelling at me about their confusion. We have only been married one year and a few months. I have been around for five years. This has caused immeasurable heartache for me, my son and my own parents, who are in disbelief about the way we have been treated. I welcome any one's advice. Especially Vanessa. What happened at your wedding?