"Stealing" ideas

Lots of brides give the same gifts. Monogrammed tote bags, tumblers, robes, etc. If it's something like that, I wouldn't worry about it. If it's super unique, she will probably have something to say about it.

If I were her, I'd be flattered that you want to copy my ideas. Most wedding's have a lot of similar things. It's impossible not to copy things to an extent. Just plan the wedding that you want, and if she says something bite back with "sorry, I didn't realize you owned the rights to those colors / gifts." I have several friends getting married this year, and I don't mind one bit sharing information with them and if they copy me, then that would be fine too.

Nahhh I think blanket scarves are cute! My wedding is in October so when the time comes I will have to see how cold or hot it will be because I will probably do something like this! They will be in long dresses and one-shoulder so idk if they will be entirely cold or not depending on the temp! I am actually borrowing some decor supplies from my friend's wedding but I am using them in different ways/different style. She doesn't have a problem with it! This friend had her wedding over a year ago and her other friend got married after her and she did practically the same maroon (a little bit more of a apple red) and navy decor/dresses/tuxes and my friend said "gee I wonder where she's seen that before!" I thought it was funny, but she wasn't entirely pissed and bragging about it.

Women can be really touchy about "copying" wedding ideas. Personally I feel like with the popularity of pinterest there will be a lot of similarities in weddings no matter what. Pretty much everyone I know that has gotten married over the past year had similar, if not the same colors, and similar decor. I don't tend to like what's "in" so my wedding looked different than most, and honestly I'd be flattered if someone copied my ideas because at least I'd know someone else was like me. Unfortunately, not everyone is like that. So if it bothers you that your family member is getting upset then I'd make sure to make sure you do have some major differences with your weddings. Keep your colors and the gift idea, but try not to use any other ideas that she had. This way you keep the peace.

No it's not copying!! You said it yourself, you're just taking inspiration from her wedding. Besides, even if you are copying her, who cares? Her wedding is over and done with. She should be flattered that you were inspired by her choices.

She doesn't own exclusive rights to a color btw. You can choose anything you want for your wedding.

It's fine to take inspiration from other people. You aren't trying to recreate her wedding at all, you're not even basing your visuals on hers, they just happen to be similar! I'd stop asking for her advice if she's going to respond so negatively, though.

I might have to steal your blanket scarf idea...

That's silly for her to make a fuss about that, I mean we literally "steal" other peoples ideas all the time through pinterest and stuff. My SIL literally took candle holders at the end of a friend's wedding (with friend's permission) and used them at her wedding lol