Std's, Bridal Shower and formal invite, when to send?

You shouldn’t be the one to plan your bridal shower or bachelorette party so I wouldn’t worry about the invitations. The host(s) can take care of it. Save the dates go out 6-8 months before the wedding and invitations go out 6-8 weeks before.

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I'm not planning the bridal shower or bachelorette party, my maid and matron of honor are planning it and have asked me to give them some dates that would work and I'm trying to be considerate because my maid of honor is a teacher and would like to work around her school schedule.

We're date twins!
My STD will go out in January, after the holidays so it won't be forgotten. I was planning on sending invites after July 4 2020.
Bridal shower I don't think needs to happen in the same timeline as STDs but I'm also very low key.
If you're doing all this in 2020 then your time line would be fine. Doing it this year would be a little soon but if it's easier for your friends go for it.

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Yea my plan is STDs in February/March, just so we can get through the Holidays and I was planning invites for late June/July. I think my bridal shower invite will conflict, but I want to help accommodate work schedules and travel expenses as much as I can for my girls.

Can you plan your bridal shower and bachelorette party for the same weekend so your friends will only have to travel twice instead of 3 times? I would do both in July or August!

I sent out save the dates 10 months out, invites 3 months out. My shower & bach were in May. Shower invites went out in April, bach was planned starting in August.

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I wish, they are planning the bachelorette to be a trip and that would have my grandmother and close aunts missing the bridal shower if we combined.

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Ohh got it.

Also for invitations I would send them about 10 weeks before the wedding if you have a lot of OOT guests. It doesn't matter if thats before/after bridal shower invitations.

I would send save the dates in February... Rule of thumb is 6-8 months in advance.

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Gotcha! Thank you! You have been very helpful!

It’s absolutely ok to send bridal shower invites before the wedding invites. I believe STDs are sent up to 8 months prior. We’re sending ours 11 months ahead because it’s a destination wedding. The invites will be sent 5-6 months prior for the same reason—we want everyone to have ample time to book flights and secure accomodations.

It depends on how many OOT guests you have. If you have a lot of OOT guests then STD go out about 8-10 months early. If you guests are close then 7-8 months is enough. Others might say this is too early but I believe invites can go out anywhere between 8-10 weeks before hand just to give the guests enough time to RSVP as well as give you enough time to follow up with those who fail to RSVP in time and still get your final numbers to your vendors in time. As for Bridal shower/ Bachelorette I agree with PP your bridal party/parent should be the one taking care of that!