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Just Said Yes June 2019

Staying with the groom the whole night of the wedding?

on June 11, 2019 at 12:43 AM Posted in Wedding Reception 0 17
My fiancé has never been to a wedding before so he doesn’t really understand how it works. I told him (and his mom told him too) that at the reception we stay together the whole time, dancing with friends family, greeting people, eating dinner etc. but he says he doesn’t have to be “tied at my hip”, and can walk around by himself? I’m just afraid his dad will try to steal him away the whole night, he is very needy and has family coming in from a different country. Thoughts on staying with the groom the whole night? Isn’t this normal? I don’t want to stand there all awkwardly when he walks away to go with his dad somewhere.

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Latest activity by dancingwiththekumars, on June 12, 2019 at 2:48 AM
  • M
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    It's usually normal but I think it's ok to separate and mingle amongst your own guests too and join shortly after again.
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  • Ingrid
    VIP October 2020
    Ingrid ·
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    Why can't you walk around and see your guests when he's seeing his guests. It's your wedding, set your own traditions. Even in this there has to be compromise
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  • Amanda
    Master December 2020
    Amanda ·
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    I'd say seperating a little especially around the end of the night is ok, I would stay with and make table stops to say hi and what not and tell FH that it's your wedding, celebrating you guys together and being attavhed is the point haha.
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  • Gabriela
    Dedicated November 2020
    Gabriela ·
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    I think its okay to stay with him if you want but usually bride and groom mingle among all their guests. The weddings I’ve been to, the bride and groom will be going around the room thanking and talking to all their guests usually together here and there. If you don’t want to be alone, I suggest mingling with your family! If his family is coming in from a different country, I’d go with him around to mingle with them too since they are now your family too!
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  • Sarah
    Master September 2019
    Sarah ·
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    I’ve never seen a bride and groom stay together through an entire reception before. Usually they greet tables together and eat dinner together and then they find their individual family/friends and spend some time doing what they like. I know I’ll be on the dance floor all night, but FH doesn’t like dancing so I’m not going to make him stay with me out there.
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  • Kelly
    VIP October 2020
    Kelly ·
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    I think it's okay to separate a little maybe towards the end. But the first part you are definitely together for
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  • Jen
    Super May 2018
    Jen ·
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    H and I greeted everyone at cocktail hour together and had dinner together but once the dancing started we pretty much split up for the evening. I love to dance and H pretty much despises it so he spent a lot of time with the other non-dancing guests out on the terrace off the ballroom. We made sure to make contact throughout the night but didn't spend the evening glued to each other.

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  • J
    Master October 2019
    Jolie ·
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    I agree with above. It is proper you go around and thank all guests both sides together BUT you can certainly branch off and dance with your friends separately at some points and join back together then. Not necessarily attached at the hip but I would agree that he has some duties before he can go hog wild lol. I told my mom this too. I said I fear he thinks he can just leave me alone all night and she said well why don't you come up with a timeline of the things you need to get done so he knows. Like we are having a little bonfire outside and he loves that so I was like uhhh I am not having him bro around the entire night, it's about just getting married..

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  • maryann
    Expert June 2019
    maryann ·
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    I don't believe there is a rule that you two have to stay together the whole entire night. ( I mean you just committed your life together) but you two are still two people. While he is mingling with family and friends you should be doing the same. Yes you two should meet and greet some guest together and most of them will come to you, but when it is time to party it should be just that you two having fun with everyone.....

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  • Melissa
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    Melissa ·
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    Like others, I think you should definitely greet all your guests together, whether at tables during dinner or during cocktail hour, so long as you get to everyone. After dinner I think it’s fine if you separate a little bit. Like I will want to dance with my girls and friends I don’t see and he may want to smoke a cigar on the terrace with his friends. I would kind of go back and forth between together and separate.
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  • M
    Super June 2019
    Mary ·
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    I'm with your fiance on this one. I'd be annoyed if my future husband wanted to be with me all night and I couldn't mingle. I see him everyday. My family and friends I see once a year. He can wait. Luckily he feels the same way I do too.
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  • JuneBride2018
    Devoted June 2018
    JuneBride2018 ·
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    We were together at first but then when the Dj cut loose I was on the floor the entire night lol. He doesn’t dance (too bad) me and my girls stayed dancing the entire night. He came and danced a little bit but for the most part he was the one going around guest to guest.
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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
    MrsD ·
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    It is typical for bride & groom to go around together greeting the guests. It's also your wedding, so the bride & groom being together makes a lot of sense.

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  • Rebecca
    Dedicated December 2018
    Rebecca ·
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    The day of our wedding we were together all reception we ate together greeted everyone and cut our cake except the end which bothered me a little because I was hanging and chatting with both our families and I didn't see him anywhere (turns out he was with a few groomsmen taking pictures and hanging out in their room which was a little rude to me) I wouldn't have minded if he was in the reception hall but he wasn't other than that I also wouldn't have minded if he wasn't with me talking and hanging out with other people we both hadn't seen our families in a long time and having everyone together was nice. I wouldn't say never part through the night but there are definitely moments where you should be together
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  • AshleyR
    Master January 2021
    AshleyR ·
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    H and I did not stay together the whole night, we greeted the guests, ate dinner, did the cake cutting etc together but after that we were pretty much doing our own thing. I like to dance so I was on the dance floor, whereas he does not dance at all. He also had older family members that were sitting in a separate lounge area (more comfortable for the elderly) that he wanted to catch up with (our families are spread out all over the country so we don’t see them much). I just stopped in to say hi to him and check in and vice versa. Being glued together for the entire night seems really frustrating and unrealistic.
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  • Martika
    Expert September 2019
    Martika ·
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    I don't plan on being attached to the hip with my FH. We will probably be mingling with guest at different times. He will be around some of his closest friends, and when they drink they get silly. So I don't expect to be on his side alllll night.

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  • dancingwiththekumars
    Expert May 2018
    dancingwiththekumars ·
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    I wasn’t with my hub all reception. We only had 50 guests and spent time together & separately with everyone. We arrived together & left together. I’ve been to dozens of weddings and don’t always see the newlyweds attached to each other.
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