Staying positive?

Yes it's super hard to stay positive during these times. Many of my bridesmaids are no longer coming and a lot of my & FH's family. I am just excited to get married and start our lives together and remind myself of that! Also, having fewer people makes me feel better about decreasing covid risk and spending more time with the people there.

You’re definitely not alone, but I’m sorry you’re feeling disappointed! The biggest disappointment for us was that my FH’s best man can’t make it, and one of his other best friends can’t either. The best thing to do is focus on things you can control and the good things. Our wedding isn’t turning out the way we originally imagined, but no matter what we are getting married and that’s the most important thing to both of us.

Well I mean I am sorry to sound negative since I am having a minimony and planned that from the jump but the day is not about how many people attend. The day is about you two starting your journey as husband and wife. This is a very crap time and I am sorry for all brides that do not get the full day as promised. I think Florida will try to stay open as long as possible but maybe consider a smaller wedding just in case as a back up plan.

I am saying this to be realistic. I live in Florida so I know the governor's mindset but I also know if things do not improve what could happen. Could you livestream family in? I personally think you can still have your day and feel special and have fun even if the numbers are not what you want plus you can save some money to go towards other things. I think the biggest thing is to focus on your day and your fh and how much fun you two will have, how special the day will be, how amazing you both will look and still party like no tomorrow even if the numbers are smaller. It is ok and won't make your day less special. I think there are many benefits to having a smaller wedding. Maybe you can have a big party to celebrate your first anniversary?

I’m certain you’re not alone in your feelings. But yes, a lower guest count is something to both accept and expect these days. As much as we want our weddings to go off without a hitch, the reality is that we’re planning and hosting events during a major and deadly pandemic. So that has impacted all of our weddings in one way or another (in our case, we postponed a year). But, despite who shows to your wedding, I can almost guarantee that you’re going to have a blast and the day will be just as special.

I'm sorry they can't attend. It's rough when things keep family from you. In this case, it's probably better they stay home, for safety, than risk getting sick.

But, as others have said - the day isn't about who attends, it is about marrying your spouse.

The only blood relative I had at our wedding was my father, because my mother's family has all but disowned me. We didn't let it get to us in any way, and had a blast with those who could make it.

Enjoy your day, stream it for those who can't come, and don't worry about who is and isn't there in the flesh.

You have every right to feel disappointed, but I think the main thing to remember is that big or small, you are having a wedding, they will be thinking of you even if they can't be there. If possible, a livestream sounds like a great idea.

View Quoted Comment Thank you. I've realized that it's better to have some family and friends there than none at all. I will need to have someone record the ceremony. Good idea 👍

View Quoted Comment No matter what at the end of the day we will be married and that's what important. Hope you have a fabulous wedding. Cheers 🍾

Girl yes be positive, we had to postpone once and then cut our 100 person list to 50, 4 weeks out. It ended up saving a ton of money on catering and alcohol and table set up, to have a smaller headcount.
And FH and I agreed it’s nice to have a more intimate, intentional list. Even though the process of getting to this point is maddening. Best of luck to you!!!

Oh! Saw your comment about recording. I hired a videographer after we postponed, and now I’m reeeeally glad I did since we had to cut the list.

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much. ♥️