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Amber
Master February 2020

Starting to understand the struggle...

Amber, on October 14, 2019 at 9:32 AM Posted in Planning 0 13

Every time I see a bride on here post about wanting to elope due to the stress of wedding planning, I feel so sad for them but have never understood what they were feeling. Well I'm starting to understand it and it's a pretty sucky feeling.

Don't get me wrong, absolutely nothing is wrong with eloping if that's what you're happy doing, but I hate that some brides (including myself) have considered it when it's not what we really want just to end all the drama/stress of planning the wedding we do want. I don't really want to elope because I don't want to miss out on having a wedding I've always imagined, but part of me feels like it isn't worth all of this frustration. It just seems like a week can't go by without some new issue/drama arising. It's too much to go into detail about, but it really is one thing after another.

Just feeling down lately and needed to rant. Thank you to those who read this far and I hope everything is going great for you ladies in your planning Smiley heart

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Latest activity by Future Mrs Wilson, on October 14, 2019 at 2:24 PM
  • Megan
    Expert October 2019
    Megan ·
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    I wanted to, but once I got there, it was amazing! It was everything I could have wanted and more. It will be okay (I got married on Saturday), getting through all the stress and emotions was the hardest part for me. Good luck and happy planning! 🍀
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  • Jess
    Expert October 2019
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    I’m getting married in 5 days and still have the thought of eloping 😂😂😂. it’ll all be worth it just push through!
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  • Blair
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    I haven't been engaged a whole month yet and I thought about eloping. Especially when my FH and I can't agree on something.

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  • Cheryl
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    This is why we are!! We couldn't agree on any thing except we wanted a destination wedding. This is is 2nd wedding and he had already done all the big fancy stuff, and I wasn't sure I wanted a big wedding. We set down talked and decided that Gatlinburg would be perfect. We found a package deal that allows 6 guest so our parents can be there with us. We are having a reception next summer for friends and family to come celebrate our marriage. I am doing a wedding dress and flowers and stuff like that, but just forgoing the planning and stressing. It's been soooo nice, our venue is booked and it includes photos, cake, minister, tosting glasses, and a just married sign for $416. All we have left to do now is get our wedding bands and book our cabin. Of course I need alterations and he needs a suit but the hardest part is done.
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  • Megan
    Super October 2020
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    I’m so sorry you’re feeling like this! I totally understand where you’re coming from. When I feel like that it helps to take a step back from planning & the drama and just put it away for a few days. We just got back from a backpacking trip that REALLY helped to clear my head and I feel like I can jump back into wedding planning again, because it was getting to be too much. I hope it gets better soon!! Sending love and good vibes! 💕
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  • Megan
    Super October 2020
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    DANG! That’s a great deal! I love the Gatlinburg area! You’re going to get some amazing pics!

    Thats one of the places we’re considering having our mini-moon right after the wedding. Are you staying there long?

    And you should check out AirBnB for cabins! I’ve already looked at the cabins they have for our mini-moon and they’re all like super aimed at couples and have heart shaped hot tubs 😂 but they look pretty awesome.
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  • Kelsey
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    I totally agree. I'm so frustrated with my venue right now, I told my FH that we should of just eloped. But I know that's not what I want or he wants.

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  • M
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    Wedding planning really can be so incredibly stressful and overwhelming that's for sure. It'll all work out though !
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  • Cheryl
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    We are! I've got like 20 cabins saved on VRBO some which are also listed on Airbnb. Our wedding is in a Saturday and I think we are just going to stay a few days extra and come back either Tue or Wed. I'm wanting to save up and maybe on our 1 year anniversary or something like that go on a really nice honeymoon.
    I have a small list of things I'd like to do that we haven't done before. We normally have the kids with us when we go so not able to go to the wineries or things like that.
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  • Tara
    Devoted August 2020
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    We think the same thing all the time. Our BM eloped a few years ago and they still had a tonnnn of drama though. At this point I wonder if it’s avoidable at all lol
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  • M
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    Our wedding planning also got a little frustrating. We have both been married before and have older kids. Everyone wanted a say In our ceremony. We decided to get married in Vegas in January and have our planned reception and a ceremony in September. Im much less stressed knowing the “special”
    part will be just FH and I and our kids.

    hang in there. Stick to your guns. Good luck!
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  • Taylor
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    Oh no!!! We've all been there! What's going on? When I get down, I just think about the beautiful pictures and memories we'll have when it's all over. Push through!!!

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    Devoted October 2019
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    I'm 5 days out. I didnt mind the planning peice of it. But what I wouldn't do again is have a bridal party. Maybe 1 or 2 people. I cannot believe how much these people have got on my nerves smh.
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