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Michelle
Beginner September 2021

Starting to regret venue choice

Michelle, on July 15, 2019 at 11:36 AM Posted in Wedding Reception 0 21
Hello everyone! I think I need some advice and reassurance with my venue choice. Kind of a long post.

My FH and I are on a somewhat tight budget. Back in March, we looked at probably 20 venues in the area, and all were pretty expensive. We decided on a golf course with a beautiful outdoor ceremony area (with a cute indoor backup) and an AMAZING package deal for the reception! Our wedding will have around ~200 people and will be on September 26, 2020.

However, now that a few months have passed, I am starting to worry that the indoor reception area isn't all what I had imagined for my wedding day; it's a banquet hall with no windows, no tall ceilings, just kind of plain. I'm starting to feel anxious about my choice and wished we had gone with something different, or that I had looked into different venues other than golf courses. I keep seeing pictures of beautiful venues with tall trees, big windows with natural light, and beautifully decorated, and I just feel bad about my venue.

At this point, we wouldn't be wasting a ton of money booking a new venue. However, we want that exact date (it's our 10 year anniversary) and I can only be sure that all the venues in the area are booked for that day. I feel so embarrassed for even feeling this way towards my venue. I am going to post pictures of the venue in the comments to get some opinions on how to decorate and maybe get some reassurance that it's not so bad. Again, I feel embarrassed for getting to this point, but I just want my day to be beautiful and perfect. Thank you all.

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Latest activity by Mary, on July 17, 2019 at 2:15 PM
  • Michelle
    Beginner September 2021
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    Here is the ceremony area and the reception area. We decided that we wanted to get the gold chiavari chairs rather than the chair covers/sash. Would drapery and string lights help?

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  • Cyndy
    Master May 2019
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    Your ceremony spot is beautiful. You can do a lot with draping and flowers. The indoor venue is definitely more of a banquet area and is beautiful if that's the look you are going for. If you were hoping for something brighter and more open that will be hard to get that feel. I'm sure it will be gorgeous once it's decorated. The key question is.....is this was you envisioned for your wedding or were you wanting something else. If you haven't signed a contract or put too much money down you might still find something else you like. It doesn't hurt to look, but this is a beautiful place. Good luck

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  • Danielle
    Expert May 2021
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    I too am getting married at a golf course. My outside space with pergola is just like yours. Inside you can lighten it up with beautiful string lights radiating out from a center point on the ceiling. Bring in some tall trees to give it an outdoorsy look also. And I love those hanging paper ball lanterns from the ceiling. Lots of those up high will keep minds off of no windows. Draw their eyes elsewhere.
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  • Kelly
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    Your venue is gorgeous! It looks so upscale and luscious! Honestly I don't think you need to worry, I think putting twinkle fairy lights in the drapery will give it a nice almost starry vibe. You can get a lot of greenery or a greenery wall for the back end to dress it up if you really want the outdoor look but I don't think it needs anything.
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  • D
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    I agree with PP. The outdoor space is amazing. It is a bit of a shame you won't have a view to the outside from the reception space. If you like banquet hall type venues this is pretty perfect. I think string lights could be a nice touch. Personally I feel they can be a little dark in there and always need extra lighting.

    A view of the outdoors was a must for us. We wanted the natural beauty to be a major part of the decor. 2/3rd are windows looking into the surrounding park with gazebo, trees, and creek.
    Talk it over with FS if it's weighing heavily on your mind. It may or may not be worth losing money. I would perhaps call or revisit other venues if you want. We went back and forth with a couple of our choices too.
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  • Brittany
    Super October 2020
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    Hey Michelle, the ceremony location is bright and looks very beautiful. The reception place is very versatile which you could do a lot with! So the question remains do you see yourself and your FH having a party there to celebrate you guys? There is a lot of space to work with where you can put greenery or flowers or candles or other things to tie into what you Invision.
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  • Erin
    Expert May 2020
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    Wow that ceremony backdrop is GORGEOUS! What were you previously imagining when planning your reception? You may be able to spruce it up with some decor. Feel free to send me some pics of what you were thinking and we can bounce ideas off of each other!

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  • G
    Dedicated August 2021
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    That ceremony space is beautiful! Is your reception during the day or in the evening? I agree that with some string lights it would brighten the space up. I also think that with some decor, even though the reception area isn't open up to the outdoors, it could be a very intimate feel.

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  • Jennifer
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    It is a stunning venue! I've been to lots of venues like this and always like them. It looks classic and 10 years from now you'll look back and your venue won't look overly trendy for the time or outdated.

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  • Mary
    Dedicated September 2019
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    Hi Michelle! Congratulations on your upcoming wedding! I am also getting married in September--but it's this year! I'm sorry you are having second thoughts on your venue. I sort of felt that way about several choices I've made about venues and other things, but in the end--spending the rest of your life with the one you love is the most important thing. My FH and I are on a very tight budget, so we decided to have an outdoor wedding in my fiance's backyard--AND I really wanted to have a barn dance in the barn (even though the barn is a little on the goofy side--I wanted to fix it up to look really neat--sort of shabby/chic!) My sweetie didn't want to have a barn dance---(aw, he just doesn't really get into dancing), but was good with having the wedding in the backyard. Ok, well---I agreed to not have the barn dance, but wasn't all that happy about it---soooo---maybe I can get him to take me dancing on our honeymoon? We chose an area of the yard that has a little raised platform where we could say our vows. Last year, I even went so far as to check out the weather patterns for that time of year, and it looked promising! Well, several months ago, I saw that he'd been working diligently on getting the yard and vegetable garden ready; he's such a hard working guy, and he just has so much to do just keeping up with a farm and his regular job, (yep, he's kind of a workaholic, but I love him!) So, rather than have him be stressed about trying to make everything perfect, I started checking out different venues for our wedding. I looked at several places in the closest town, but the prices were astro--turfical, oh my!! So, after all was said and done, I decided to call our pastor and ask if we could have the wedding and reception at our church, instead. He wholeheartedly said, "Yes--and use whatever you need at the church!" I was dumbfounded at his kindness; I thought at that point, "Wow, isn't it incredible to be a part of such a great church family!" Our church is a rented space in a building that's more suited for an office, but it's our place to worship God. It's really just a simple place--no fancy stained glass windows, no beautifully carved wooden altar, and no chandeliers. But, on our wedding day, I know the Spirit of God will be present, along with the love of family and friends who want to share a special day when two people who love God and each other, pledge to share their lives together! Yep, we'll decorate with silk flower arrangements and nice tableclothes and hopefully be able to hang a few little light strands, but it's the beauty that's found in a heart where LOVE lives that can bring light and warmth to any venue! BTW, I think your venue is absolutely beautiful! Enjoy the journey you're embarking on, and may God bless you in your new lives together!

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  • Mary
    Dedicated September 2019
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    Hi Danielle! I like your ideas!

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  • Michelle
    Beginner September 2021
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    Thank you! We really loved the ceremony spot and I guess a beautiful ceremony spot was a higher priority.
    I think when looking for a venue, I focused a lot on the ceremony spot and the price, especially because we are trying to stay under budget. I think after booking, I've been so self conscious about how it looks; I honestly didn't think about the no-windows thing until my FMIL pointed it out. Then I started comparing our venue to others, which I really know I shouldn't do.
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  • Michelle
    Beginner September 2021
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    Great ideas, thank you so much! We love the pergola!
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  • Michelle
    Beginner September 2021
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    I appreciate it!! I attached a picture of someone who did ceiling drapery, do you think it looks okay? I would love some twinkle lights, and we are planning to incorporate some greenery too.
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  • Michelle
    Beginner September 2021
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    As I mentioned to Cyndy in my comment above, I think we were so focused on how the ceremony itself would look, we didn't give much thought into the reception. Plus, the price per head and what we are getting with it is really great for our budget! I wanted our ceremony to be special and beautiful, since we are celebrating our love.
    We wanted our exact date because it is the day of our 10-year anniversary and it was super important. It's probably unlikely to find something else on that day for the same price.
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  • Michelle
    Beginner September 2021
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    Thank you! I think I am so caught up in details that don't matter to a lot of people. You're right, the space is totally versatile and I think we could have a great party
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  • Michelle
    Beginner September 2021
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    Thank you so much Erin! I think I will take you
    up on your offer ☺️ As I mentioned to other people, when looking at venues, we were so caught up in how the ceremony site looked and the catering prices, that we didn't give too much thought into how the reception area looked. I keep comparing myself to others, which I know I need to stop. I am hoping my centerpieces and maybe ceiling drapery/string lights would help bring it all together.
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  • Michelle
    Beginner September 2021
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    Thank you! My ceremony is from 4:30-5:00, and the reception ends at 11. Since we don't have those outdoor views, I am hoping that I can achieve that intimate and warm environment.
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  • Michelle
    Beginner September 2021
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    Thank you so much!!
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  • Michelle
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    Thank you so much for your kind words Mary! I think your space looks wonderful! You're right, I think I shouldn't focus on the reception hall so much and just hope that everyone enjoys themselves. The ceremony area was probably the most important thing to us, and we really do love that spot. ☺️
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