Standing at the Ceremony

A chair for every butt is how the general opinion stands here, and I'm in agreement. It can be very uncomfortable to stand for a long time, and if I had worn heel to a wedding and then couldn't sit I'd be pretty upset.

Either cut your guest list, so every person gets a seat, or find a different venue.

It doesnt.

Every butt gets a seat.

I couldn't stand for your ceremony. A lot of people would never say, but it's going to uncomfortable for them.

Every butt gets a seat. Why would you ask those who you love most to stand? Better yet, how would you decide who gets a seat and who stands?

Agreed. Every butt gets a seat.

The only time I'd understand it is if you're having a super informal 5 minute wedding (that you show up on time for). Most women wear some type of heel to a wedding and it would be very uncomfortable. Not to mention that many will have other physical limitations that require seats.

Give everyone a seat.

I don't recommend this at all. Sure a ceremony is only 10-30 minutes but guests come early. That could be 45 minutes right there. Plus there are a lot of hidden disabilities. For example, if I stand for more than 30 minutes at a time my back hurts me so bad that I can't breathe. You never know if someone needs a seat. A seat for every butt

You need seats for everyone. I would not go to a wedding where I had to stand and I am young and able to do so. It’s just not comfortable.

No, everyone needs a seat

If you can't fit 150, you need to cut your list. I'm normally an advocate for not cutting guest lists but you need a seat for every butt.

No way. Guests need a place to sit dirung the ceremony. Guests begin showing up a half hour before the ceremony. Processional can take up a huge chunk of time (ours had 3 songs; 2 played in their entirety and one was faded out partway through...I'm sure from the time our parents and grandparents began processing to their seats to the time I got to the end of the aisle, it had been nearly 10 minutes). A quick ceremony would be another 15 minutes, and then a few more minutes while you recess. Guests could be standing in the ceremony area for an hour, and that's provided your ceremony starts on time.

If the venue can't accommodate your entire guest list seated, then you either need to look at a different venue that has the capacity to hold all of your guests or cut your guest list so you're not inviting any more than can be seated at your venue.

When my cousin got married it was at a outdoor gardens and they could only have so many seats. People stood however they did make the ceremony brief. If you plan on doing this make sure that the elderly, disabled, etc have chairs.

Cut your list. And DON'T make your guests stand. Or find a new venue.

Number of chairs = Number of Butts. That's a good rule to live by.

There needs to be a chair for everyone. So either a different venue or cut the guest list.

How would you decide who gets to sit or stand? I know I wouldn't be happy if I came to a wedding and had to stand during it.

It really wouldn't work out well. People will be annoyed that they are having to stand, awkwardly trying to see around each other, just overall uncomfortable! Your guests comfort should be a priority, they are giving up their time for you.

I'd keep looking for a venue that can accommodate all of your guests, or cut the guest list!

How would you determine which 100 guests were important enough to get seating?

Please don't do this. Either cut your guest list or find somewhere that accommodate your guest list.

UO here, we did it. We had seating for about 70% of our guests, for our 7 minute ceremony. It wasn't the best etiquette, but we committed to a venue before we realized the issue. We kept the ceremony super, super short.

(My venue was Central Park, and we had one of the only spots in the park where there's seating at all. Most of the nice places in the park for ceremonies are standing only)

I don’t think this is a good idea, how do you pick who stands and who sits? I would prefer all my guests be comfortable and able to enjoy the wedding.

Cut your list or find a new venue. Please don't take the outlook (as others have tried): "Well we can count on so many people RSVP'ing no" - you need to have a chair for every invited person. Your wedding is 18 months away - the guest list will change A LOT between now and then. Don't stress about it now.