Standard or personal vows?

My fiance and I are writing our own vows! I'll likely have someone read both of ours ahead of time to make sure that one isn't significantly longer or shorter than the other. We'll probably include little touches of humor in our vows, but not to the point of it being a mini comedy routine lol.

We're writing our own vows, and saying them to one another at the ceremony! I just love how personal and unique you can make it, rather than repeat what the officiant says, which is the same thing every other couple says at their ceremony.

We are doing both

We are doing the standard do you take this man do you take this woman

but we are also writing our own vows

We're going with standard vows with a few edits such as removing the promise to obey line. While vows are one of (if not, THE) most important part of a wedding, we both agreed it's one less thing to stress about since we'd rip our hair out trying to find the perfect words.

We’re doing repeat after me style vows in front of everyone but writing something to exchange in private. We don’t want to say our personal promises to each other in front of everyone else.

We are doing personal vows. We are doing serious but we want a couple of little funny things in it as well that are personal to us.

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A little laughter, but not like going to the Improv. LOL! Makes sense to me.

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Understood. It definitely gives the couple an opportunity to be creative and show some aspects of their individual personalities and love for each other.

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What a nice idea -- the best of both worlds!

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Understood. I was in the same boat. I can't tell you how stressed I was writing the note to go with his gift. Writing vows probably would have sent me over the edge. LOL!

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That works too! Those personal vows that will just be between the two of you will definitely be special.

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Nice! Those vows will be always unique to you and your significant other!

View Quoted Comment My only issue is that I can be a little shy at times so I'm hoping I can get through the vows nice and smoothly.

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When you're standing at the altar, it truly feels like just the two of you are there. You may have to practice in the mirror a few times, but you got this and you'll get through them just fine!

View Quoted Comment Thank you 😊

We are writing our vows together and doing them a little different.
I will read a line, then he will read a line. Some will be personal and some will be more standard.
Something like this: Me: I promise to always say I love you before falling asleep.Him: I promise to always love and take care of you. Me: I promise to never tire of the random songs you make up for me. Him: I promise to always pretend to like those silly shows you make me watch. Me: I promise to always encourage you to play the drums, even if I won’t let you buy another one.
And so on. We’ve agreed that we will each right a few personal ones individually and then we’ll right most together.

We are having our ceremony at a Catholic church so we will be doing standard vows.

I do love the idea of personal vows though!

We are doing our own vows, but nothing to intricate. My FH is also a man of very few words, I have given him some things over the years by jokingly saying "I want that stated in your wedding vows" (Most importantly not eating food off my plate, he made that mistake once lol) so clearly we will also be including a nod to our humor as well.

Just something short and sweet with promises we already keep to each other today.

I have not decided if we will read our own vows, or have our officiant read them for us, I'm leaning towards our officiant reading them for us, between nerves for both of us and I am a happy crier I don't think either of us would be able to get through them coherently.

My fiancé and I are doing both! I am very quiet and my FH is extroverted, so we decided to write our own standard vows. We basically found a standard vow that we liked the format of and put out own words into it. And we decided to exchange more personal vows after the wedding in private.

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What a great exercise to do together! Honestly, this would be a great exercise for couples in premarital counseling (and even for those of us who are already married to keep the love alive)!