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Just Said Yes February 2021

Spotlight Stealer

Jeanette, on March 4, 2020 at 10:56 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 11

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Hello everyone!

My wedding date is set for 1/2/21.
A friend of ours is planning their wedding for some time in November of this year.She quite unorganized and hasn't really planned much except that they're wanting to get married in November.I've given her suggestions on getting started with her planning, but I don't think she's taken them into account. We have some mutual guest for both our weddings.My hubby and I have already started our planning, budget set, date picked, venue about to be reserved etc. I'd like to do save the date cards for our guest but I'm a little hesitant given that our friend, who is invited to our wedding, may feel we're stealing her spotlight. Am I wrong for sending save the date cards anyway???

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Latest activity by Nicole, on March 5, 2020 at 3:16 PM

Legend June 2019
Melle · on March 4, 2020 at 11:03 AM
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I don’t really understand your worry here. Your wedding is separate from hers and your date is way separate from hers. Sending save the dates is a standard thing. I didn’t send any save the dates for mine even though I was organized. I don’t think it’ll be seen as you’re taking anyone’s thunder
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Master January 2015
null · on March 4, 2020 at 11:06 AM
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I agree with this. I think you're just overthinking this whole thing
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Legend November 2019
Caytlyn · on March 4, 2020 at 11:10 AM
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I think it’s way too early to send save the dates, but that’s because your wedding is 11 months away, not because of your friend’s wedding.
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Super August 2020
Alex · on March 4, 2020 at 11:13 AM
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If it is a real friend, it won't matter. Your dates are like 3 months apart.
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Expert June 2020
Pattie · on March 4, 2020 at 11:14 AM
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I think your probably overthinking this. Go ahead and send them out!
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VIP October 2021
Monica · on March 4, 2020 at 11:29 AM
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Send them out around 9mo or 6mo. Don’t worry about your friend because you need to get the information out for ur wedding too.
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Legend July 2019
MrsD · on March 4, 2020 at 12:17 PM
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I would continue planning your wedding regardless of what she is doing!
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Master November 2020
Kristen · on March 4, 2020 at 12:18 PM
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Just because your organized that is not an issue in regards to how you do your wedding. I do not see that you are stealing any sportlight.
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Master September 2019
Sherry · on March 4, 2020 at 2:27 PM
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Your wedding and her wedding are completely different events. You should move ahead with your planning and not worry about her wedding or where she is in her planning.
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Super August 2020
Anna · on March 4, 2020 at 2:57 PM
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I don't understand the concern
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Super October 2021
Nicole · on March 5, 2020 at 3:16 PM
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No you're fine! Send them out whenever you're ready, unless you are about to send them out and just received her invite that week. We wanted to send out our save the dates the week before a friends wedding (timeline for when we wanted to send them). So we held the set of save the dates that would be attending the wedding and waited a few weeks to send those out but sent out the rest.
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