SPINOFF: Seating with no bridal party?

FH and I are sitting at a table with our parents. I didn't like the idea of sitting with the bridal party. And FH didn't like the sweetheart table idea.

Sit with your parents or with your closest friends, so you can have the best time during the reception. FH and I are debating between doing that or doing sweetheart table. I say picture your reception and think about what would make you the happiest

Haha Lannisters!

I have no advice, I just wanted to let you know I appreciate the reference and I am dyyyying for Sunday!

What you're talking about is a sweetheart table. And that is what we chose to do.

You could sit with your parents and closest relatives. I didn't like that idea because I wasn't convinced that people wouldn't take it as a slight. It's impossible to please everyone.

I would like if my parents sat with us. My parents would like if they sat with us. FH's mom..... well, she's SUPER insecure that FH's dad is in a committed relationship and she is single, and she's wary of being around them.

That's the kind of situation that leads you down the sweetheart table option. The good news was that we actually got to eat our meal lol.

Sweetheart table is just the bride and groom alone?

Yep, sweetheart is just you and FH.

I have nothing really worthy to add, I just liked the Lannisters comment. Can't wait until Sunday!

Just don't have a red wedding, please.

Lol I totally played rains of castamere during dinner.

Yes, it's just the two of you. You're having a DW, right? Even for my first wedding, which was a DW, we had two tables for the family that attended and a sweetheart table. It's just easier if people are incapable of handling their issues or being mature. Plus it gives you time to talk to your husband.

I had a MOH, but we just had a sweetheart table.

Yup the sweetheart table, where you and fh get to actually sit and breathe and talk for a few minutes before all hell breaks loose! Lol

@Nicole - Well, we aren't inviting any Freys, so it should be okay.

@Janeen - Yes, we'll be in Mexico. It sounds like having a sweetheart table is the most logical, but we're both fairly shy in group situations.

Also, I can already picture FBIL inappropriately pulling a chair up to our table and going, "Dexter?! Dexter?! Dexter?! Dexter?! Dexter?! Dexter?! Dexter?! Dexter?! Dexter?! Dexter?! [ad infinitum]" while FH ignores him and quietly eats his meal while I slowly go insane.

If you're at a sweetheart table, you wouldn't have to worry about the shyness. You would only be talking to each other.

I guess how much sense this makes depends on how many guests you have and your venue's ability to seat them. I had 24 guests at my DW and they had tables of 12, so we split everyone up and we sat off at our own table. If you only have 10 guests, it would be strange to sit off by yourself if there's a table to accommodate everyone.

Same situation with the tension with the FILs. Do a sweetheart table. I think the head table is more Lannister-eque anyways

We have 15 people who have booked so far, but we are ultimately expecting 25-30 guests.

We have a bridal party, but we're still sitting at a sweetheart table, with our BP seated with their spouses/SOs at round tables.

We had a sweetheart table, and everyone was so busy eating that they do not really stare at you.

We actually got to enjoy each other, eat some food and relax for 15 minutes. It was great!

I always thought that a table with the BP was the thing because that's all I've ever seen. BUT after going to a few different weddings in the last year or so during planning it seems like the most awkward thing... everyone just sits in a line and how do you handle random +1's, since they should sit with your BP but then you have a bunch of people at the head table that you don't know. That would bother me... so sitting with your parents. Great, except mine are divorced and barely civil, so not great. Looks like we get to be all lovey behind our own little sweetheart table <3