Spin-Off: Bridesmaid-zilla stories

I asked a year out and I asked someone who I felt obligated to ask to be in my bridal party and she bucked me at every turn. She didn't like the dresses (but didn't want to pick her own) she couldn't stand the shoes (bridesmaids picked the style, I picked the color) she waited until the last minute to get her dress resulting in all the maids who needed alterations having to get them done at the last minute. Then she dropped out of the wedding. I knew I shouldn't have asked her and I should have waited to ask them but I was so excited that I figured nothing would change amongst us. Wrong. This maid and I barely talk and while I still wonder if it's something I did to her, I also wonder why she just didn't tell me she would bow out once she figured it was too much for her instead of inconveniencing everyone else.

Asked my girls almost immediately after getting engaged. I of course asked my best friend at the time to be MOH. This is the girl who became my instant best friend at the beginning of college. Sorority sisters, drunken nights, her asshole exes, her bad break-ups, we went through it all. She stayed at my place for weeks on end, I did the same at hers, we had keys to each others' places. We were inseparable.

The moment I got engaged and the spotlight was off of her for a short time, she had to run off, get engaged, elope, and have a child. All within a year of my engagement, after never having expressed a desire to do anything of the sort before. I supported her through all of it, scrounged up enough money to throw a beautiful baby shower, and was there every time she had to go to the hospital for HG. But God forbid I ask her opinion about anything wedding related- it immediately got turned back to her pregnancy and baby. I was the only non-family member at her wedding, yet she doesn't even have the decency to tell me she wasn't coming to my wedding. This was after she/her husband ruined my bridal shower, which I never got an apology for and she told me herself he would never apologize. Selfish. It took me years to realize it.

I had a friend from college who we had always talked about her being a bridesmaid and then she abandoned me at the airport, locked me out of my house overnight, drank all the alcohol in our house, puked in both toilets, wet the bed, and stole my clothes.

That was the last time I ever asked her to check on my dog while I was out of town.

Jeanne- WTF!!!

Haha Kathryn we are no longer speaking, obviously.

Was the dog ok after all that mess? That's insane!

FH and his daughter have always had a strained relationship.

I invited her to be my bridesmaid last year and we spent the whole year hanging out and getting to know each other. She asked last week for birthday money to buy a ticket to go on vacation to Hawaii for a week (where she had been stationed a few years ago). Well sure we said, she came over had dinner and took the money. Then completely stopped talking to me. I contacted her mother to see what was going on and she got a one way ticket and wont be coming to the wedding. I bought her dress and all her gifts and 2 months before she bailed and didn't even have the decency to tell me she was doing so.

People can turn on you in the blink of an eye. If I could do it again, I would've just asked my MOH and my oldest sister. The rest has been drama.

Thankfully, yes. When things get crazy my dog usually just goes to sleep in the laundry so I assume that's what she did that night, she was fine when I got in the house.

I asked a friend of mine then accepted a job she wanted (but wasn't called to interview for). She didn't speak to me for a few weeks. Fortunately that all got resolved, but damn it was stressful.

@Jeanna I'm speechless. Can you elaborate on what happened?

I don't have any bridesmaid drama, but there still is time for someone to turn crazy. I was asked to be MOH in a good friend's wedding. I was there when she got engaged and went dress shopping with her. Then, as soon as I graduated and moved she completely stopped talking to me. I tried to get in contact with her and keep the relationship alive, but she would just text back "yeah or ok". I gave up after a few months, then a week before the wedding she asks what my address is so she can send an invite. I was shocked because at that point it had been over a year since I saw her. Also, she knew I lived 12 hours away and she expected me to go as a guest with only a week to plan? Who does that?

I have two MOH and one can't quite understand I can be friends with more than one person. Fighting me at every turn, trying to one up the other girls to be number one friend. The worst was when she ordered very expensive necklaces for everyone and told me I could pay her back whenever, when 1. I didn't like them, 2. I had something else in mind, and 3. I couldn't afford them. And got offended when I asked her to return them. She's having a very hard time letting me make my own decisions for my own wedding. I have another bridesmaid I feel like I should have asked to be in the honor position but I was guilted into asking her. Ugh.

I asked way to soon also...and now I have MOH regret :-(

I was MOH in my bff's wedding and I constantly had to check this girl about her feelings. She was very depressing because when we did anything wedding related she would cry about how she and her girlfriend would never be able to get married. The day of the rehearsal I had to talk to her because she suddenly got food poisoning but was drinking mimosas the next day. She had a breakdown while we were getting ready at the brides house in the morning about "how it wasn't fair" this was like three years ago so gay marriage wasn't legal yet I just couldn't deal with babying her when she was a lot older than us and should've been able to be more mature.

Umm wow Jeanne that sounds like my college roommate she would get drunk and puke everywhere, eat all my food, thankfully I always locked my room when I left!

It's not really a bridesmaid-zilla moment but more a bridesmaid - wtf moment. I asked my girls about 10-11 months in advance. Everything was peachy. Then, I didn't hear from one for literally a month. After numerous texts and unreturned calls she finally sent me a fb message saying she couldn't be in my wedding because I offended her. I asked how (because I felt so bad thinking I'd done something to hurt her feelings). She said it was from a fb post I made. The post I made was a pic of my new car (that I worked my ASS off for) and my caption was "SO proud of myself! After hard work in school and my new job I was able to buy a new car completely on my own!" Well this offended her apparently because her dad helped her buy her new 70,000$ truck. Ugh ok? Wtf? She since apologized for being looney tunes and life is back on track lol.

I kinda have a story, so last Saturday after I bought my dress (without my MOH being there because she wanted to sleep in that morning) my FH and I went on a little weekend away to celebrate my birthday well while I am out sight seeing she texts me just chewing me out how it isnt fair that my wedding budget is 3 times the size of hers and she cant afford any flowers, decor, or a DJ. And after trying to explain that we are saving everything we can for this wedding she still said that we should cut our wedding down so hers doesnt look like "shit"

She also has nothing planned for her wedding and I have been constantly trying to help but any ideas I give are shot down because she thinks I am trying to rub it in her face that I can afford something more expensive than the DIY projects for her wedding I keep offering to help with.

Wow, ladies, I am so sorry you have to deal with so much craziness!!! I luckily haven't had any bridesmaid drama, i did have a little drama when two friends who I didn't ask to be bridesmaids (who live across the country) jokingly threatened that now they wouldn't think about asking me to be in their wedding, since I'm not having them as bridesmaids, but other than that thankfully it's been smooth sailing...there's still time though...

DH's sister was my pain in the ass BM. Pretty much everything from the dress (which she chose then bitched about later), the jewelry, hair & makeup (which wasn't mandatory) was her complaining. But the best one was when she asked me about when my pro pics would be in. She told me she was going to contact my photographer so she could go to his house to preview the pictures before me and DH! She also wanted to choose which pictures she wanted. Nope, not happening!

@Ruth, I doubt that would happen anyway. The photographer has a contract with you and was paid by you not her. The vast majority would respect this and would tell her that isn't an option.

I'm really grateful I don't have crazies in my BP. One is in Senegal (Peace Corps) right now, so the only "drama" is keeping in touch consistently (spotty internet).

@Desiree, WTF. Thats ridiculous

I'm usually the first to tell other members to wait, but my story is very different:

When I got engaged, I asked my BFF right away. I mean, she's my BFF of 15 years! Of course, she said yes, and we were so happy. My engagement has already been 2 years, and in this time, my BFF has fallen ill. She's been diagnosed with a neuro-muscular condition, and there's no way she can travel from PA to Maui for the wedding. (Where she lives and where I live.) And now, she feels terrible because she thinks she's letting me down, and I feel terrible because the last thing she needs right now is added stress. We're still BFFs - nothing will ever change that, but I truly wish I hadn't asked. I could have saved us both some heartache because her health matters so much more than my wedding day.

Anyway, no matter what, there's just No reason to open a door to potential issues when you can just leave it closed.