Spin-Off: Back lash from uninvited Family?

We did this. So far, I haven't heard about any resentment from people. I figured if I or FI haven't talked to you and they are not in our lives, then you would not be getting an invite. It also helped that we are having a smaller wedding, only 110 invited and knowing some of them can't come. Good luck, but go with what you want and not what others tell you.

Just sent my invites out Monday, we will see!

I think you're talking a spin-off from my post lol

Funny thing we actually didn't invite some people and yeah there was backlash. Fh has a cousin who he hasn't seen in 10years and the last time they saw each other was literally a screaming match. Now she's "hurt and offended" that she's not invited to the wedding (she lives 15 hours away too) and is starting all kinds of family drama and forbade her parents from coming. Weirdo.

We also chose to not invite fbils friend bc he would have treated it like a frat party and owes fh money among other things. While he didn't throw a fit, fmil did to the point we haven't really spoken to her in weeks.

But I'm dealing with crazies.

If my cousins know, they didn't care. Two of them are on my facebook, but of course, I'm assuming they saw my pictures which they may not have.

My aunt, if she ever finds out I was married again, would likely be mad LOL.

I am not married, but I've already had backlash from my Aunt and Cousin because I didn't invite my cousin's daughter (my second cousin). I haven't talked to, or seen her, in at least 5 years. My mom wants me to send her an invite, but I won't out of principle. I love it when people make their own guest list for my wedding.

My STDs went out. I invited one cousin and his wife, but not the other two cousins. I've seen them maybe twice in 10 years, where I see the one I did invite almost every weekend. I knew word was out in the family who got them and who didn't because I found myself blocked from the uninvited cousins social media. Obviously a very mature approach for a 51 year old

It's really interesting how these things play out. I'm of the mind that if we don't talk anyway, Then you shouldn't expect an invite.

I have a distant cousin that's getting married in May. I've seen him once in my entire life. Sure we are friends on Facebook but that's about it. I had absolutely no issue when I didn't receive an invite. However other people in my family (in similar boats as me) did get offended.

Being blocked on social media is hilarious!! But if you don't talk to them anyway....does it really matter haha

It was a blessing in disguise. She's a chronic poster. "Making popcorn " "Yum popcorn and a movie" "So full from popcorn " One of those. Her life in status updates - every single move.

To expound, I seriously don't even care if my cousins are mad or feel slighted. We don't talk. Why the hell would I care if they're mad?

I have the same question, though my wedding is a ways away to give it any considerable amount of thought. My mom's side of the family is split (don't ask!) and the side I grew up with I have no problem inviting, but the other side that I haven't had an actual relationship with.. like ever so why bother? They're very nice, albeit judgey and snippy and would almost positively be offended if not invited, but why invite if I don't have a relationship with you? Yes, they have tried inviting me to things, but they are all older cousins, aunts and uncles that we don't have anything in common. A lot of forced "you're my family so we have to have a relationship" type stuff.

I've been on the fence about inviting a lot of my aunts/uncles on my dad's side. I don't really want to, but they are family. However, we don't exactly talk ever. I haven't seen them in nearly 2 years. And they don't exactly invite us to anything that I see photos of on FB after the fact. So I'm kind of not inviting a few friends to make room for them, and I'm kind of wondering if it's even worth it.

I just sent ours out so we shall know soon! Although we went beyond our original guest list to take a few requests from our moms, on the extended family. There's still so many we could not invite...and that's at a 250 cap!

We didn't invite any second cousins, I have a large family and out of 160 guests, 100 are my family alone... I excluded a couple first cousins because I never talk nor see them, in fact I just realized yesterday my one cousin had a 10 year old son... I thought she only had two kids, I completely missed the third kid who is now 10!

Janeen I feel the same way. Chances are I won't even know you were upset because we don't talk! lol I think the bigger issue is when parents get involved and they become upset because you don't want to invite relatives or even friends that you don't know

I've had a few great aunts and cousins get upset. I didn't invite any of my grandpa's sisters, and only invited one of my grandma's. They're the only ones I see on a regular basis though. My grandma's other sister called demanding to know why she didn't get an STD. We had to tell her because we don't really have a relationship with her, and whenever she's invited anywhere she decides to bring her adult children, their flavor of the month, and all of her grand kids, regardless of if they've been invited or not.