Spicing up the honeymoon when....?

I'd safe the super kicky stuff for when you get a bit more experience (e.g. handcuffs/whip)

However, I think rose petals, candles, and make some edible lotion would be nice. That way you can give full body massages and it doesn't taste bad if you kiss their neck and such afterwards.

I agree with Fireworks. I'd save the crazy stuff for later. You don't want to do everything all on your first night.

Yes. There's all sorts of kinds of lube that you should look into and different kinds of condoms. Because it'll be your first time, those will be most important!

Don't spice it up just yet. Explore. Enjoy. Figure out what you like and what you don't. What you're comfortable with, and what you aren't.

I don't mean to burst your bubble, sex is one of the best things that happened to humankind. Beyond its reproductive value, obviously :-) But it's rarely awesome right away. It takes knowing yourself and your own body, as well as your partner's for it to be awesome. So first explore and relax. Spicing up will happen later.

Oh, and you asked about "bridal language" in another thread. Here it is ;-)

https://support.weddingwire.com/questions/701/WeddingWire%20Community%20Lingo

I think the ladies here have given you great advice so far. I'm sure you've been giving the honeymoon lots of thought, but I love Angie's advice to make sure you have the supplies you need (practically speaking, of course). Mrs. S is completely right about needing to find out not only what you like, but what your partner likes, too. The things you want may not be what they are comfortable with right off the bat. Don't be afraid to speak up if there's something that doesn't feel good/right to you and make sure you do check with your partner to make sure they are feeling comfortable as well.

As a personal story, H and I still have not tried most of the kinkier stuff despite having been together over 3 years. I'd have to say, it's never boring! Actually, H and I often find sex to be amusing. Laugh off missteps, it totally makes it more fun!

I think it is great you both are waiting! I think it will definitely take some time to figure out what you both like. I know it has got to be very exciting for you but like the other ladies said you want to save things for later. You have your whole lives together.....plenty of time to figure it out.

100% agree with everyone above. You'll have years of fun getting to know yourself, him and how the two of you interact before worrying about bringing handcuffs into the equation.

Nice lingerie, lubes, lotions and if its part of your plan, preventive pregnancy items, should be in your honeymoon kit!

Congratulations!!!

Ya'll have all given me so much great advice!!! this helps a bunch, thank you SO MUCH!!! Mrs. S, thanks for the bridal language thing hahaha and to everyone else, I think all this advice really helps! I believe you're right. Most likely I'll leave the crazy stuff for later, and just spend this time on the honeymoon getting to know each other in a different way I will definitely remember the KY jelly too haha thanks everyone!! and congrats on all your marriages, past and up and coming!

Oh yay! Another bride in my situation! I am so nervous for that night but I figured we'd save the crazy stuff for when we actually need it.

Oh, but do NOT forget to pack a sense of humor! That will carry you through so much in your marriage-- from your first experience at sex to the first time you change a baby.

You're new. Explore each other first without the toys. Add the kinky stuff later! Lingerie is a good start. Have a bottle of lube (KY Brands best I've found) just in case! You're both going to be nervous, so take a deep breath and relax and enjoy! Also listen to each other. If either of you are uncomfortable with something, chill for a minute and breathe. Definitely protection in case kids aren't in the plan just yet! KY works best with condoms!

The only tip I have other than just enjoying each other is try not to hype it up too much. My first time, my bf went all out, rose petals, chocolate-covered strawberries, candlelight and music etc, and when it came time for the actual deed, well, things just didnt work. We were young (16 and 18, not the babies that are having sex nowadays but much younger than I am now) and its all hazy now, but the gist of it was that he couldn't keep it hard enough for sex. I believe we just put too much pressure on it being our first time. I've had newlywed formerly-virgin friends tell me much the same thing happened on their wedding night. And the point of that TMI was just to say, dont put too much pressure on yourselves or the night to be fantastic. It may happen and be better than you ever imagined, or it may horrible for any number of reasons (of course I'll keep my fingers crossed for the former for you, but you know what I mean I hope!). Just dont stress it if things don't work out as planned

So many good comments on here already! I agree that instead of spice, you should focus on romanticizing it. And yes... sense of humor. It is rarely enjoyable right away, and you will likely be nervous. Don't put too high of expectations and don't get disappointed if it isn't everything you imagined. And yes, you might want to consider lube, and protection if you want it. Alcohol always help too ; )

I'll warn you - the first time I had sex I thought this is it. Really? This is what has ruined men for ages. People gave up kingdoms for this. Oh, and it hurt.

Be prepared to laugh a lot and just spend a lot of time touching. The emotional connection is as important as the physical stuff (even for guys).

There's a lot of pressure to perform for a guy. First time, wedding night, he knows you're looking forward to it. just be prepared for things to maybe not go smoothly. This will all be fun to laugh nicely about later.

Robyn, congrats on your coming wedding! I hope everything goes smoothly in the planning.

Thanks to everyone for all the advice I'm so happy to get all this help. I'm sure it won't be perfect at first, but it'll be romantic, and we'll get the hang of it lol

Dont need to spice it up just yet since your both virgins.

Ok this may be TMI. But I was told the ky is the worst thing to use. This came from a person who sells "toys and things" It is called slick and silly (sold by party gals.) It is a water based lube. It does not affect your ph balance. if you feel like it is drying up and a drop of water and it lubes back up. I have used both the KY and the Slick and Silly and I like the Slick and Silly better.

I don't have any different advise than what the lovely ladies before me has said.

But defiantly use lots of lube! and focus on each other and the joy of being together. I waited til I was married with the first h, he wasn't a virgin, and I wish I had the advise that has been given to you.

I agree with all the ladies who are saying there's no need to worry about spicing it up your first time.

the first time as a female...not all that great. but it gets waaay better after that though. just don't be too disappointed if it's over quick, since it's his first time too.

make sure there is lots of foreplay and that he takes his time.

AMY V you made me laught with your kinky shit comment. I will be 40 in June and FH will be 38 in July. While he would love some "Spice" My idea of foreplay is taking off my Pajamas lol. Sorry but after 13 years it's died down a bit. I wouldn't worry about anything too kinky. Enjoy finding each other and seeing what you like and don't like. Hell after all these years my FH sometimes still shocks the hell out of me. I'd say have a great time but I think that is a given