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BeachyBrideToBe
Devoted April 2017

Spending the night before the wedding with your groom to be?

BeachyBrideToBe, on July 14, 2016 at 8:24 AM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 100

I know the old tradition is that the groom doesn't see the bride before the wedding.... But with things becoming less traditional, just wondering what everyone's take is on sleeping arrangements the night prior? My FH and I are getting married out of town and would obviously need to book hotel...

I know the old tradition is that the groom doesn't see the bride before the wedding.... But with things becoming less traditional, just wondering what everyone's take is on sleeping arrangements the night prior?

My FH and I are getting married out of town and would obviously need to book hotel rooms. Trying to decide if we should stick with one, or go the more traditional route. What's everyone else doing?

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  • Must Love Cats
    Master October 2017
    Must Love Cats ·
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    Yes. I just don't want him to see me in my full makeup and dress but he won't see any of that until we get married anyways.

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  • Erika
    Devoted October 2016
    Erika ·
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    We're sleeping separately, I want to build the anticipation. After the rehearsal dinner, he'll go back to our place and I'll go stay with my mom

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  • R&B2016
    VIP October 2016
    R&B2016 ·
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    I think it's totally up to you! We live together, so we spend every night together. We haven't talk about it yet, but we might just stay home to save the money. We also have a dog that needs to be cared for, so unless he stays at his parents' we'll both be home!

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  • Ivy
    Super November 2016
    Ivy ·
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    I am having a girls night/sleepover with my bridesmaids! And FH will be at our home or with his friends somewhere. Smiley smile We are going to keep it traditional.

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  • Allee
    Devoted October 2016
    Allee ·
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    We're doing DW and I'll be staying with my family while he stays with his!

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  • NowPartyof2
    Super April 2017
    NowPartyof2 ·
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    We will be separate but only because all of the girls are spending the night at our house(we live together) and the boys will be in the hotel. If we see each other before the wedding I don't think its a big deal, but we probably won't until the first look cause we won't be at the same place.

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  • Kristen
    VIP May 2016
    Kristen ·
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    We had a DW and both stayed in our hotel suite together the night before the wedding. Our suite was really nice and quite pricey, so we didn't see the point in paying for another room and making one of us miss out on a night of enjoying the suite.

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  • MsDani313
    Super September 2016
    MsDani313 ·
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    Ill be staying at a hotel with some of the BMs. He will either be at home or at the hotel.

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  • Liz
    Super March 2016
    Liz ·
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    We spent the night together, but parted ways in the morning. I have no regrets about that and wanted a good night's sleep the night before (even though I was up half the night stressing lol). I did want my dress and look to be a surprise for him though, so we didn't see each other until I walked down the aisle that day. Smiley smile

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  • Lauren
    Devoted September 2016
    Lauren ·
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    We plan on staying together the night before. We have lived together for over a yr , so i will sleep horribly without him. He will be going down to the bridal suite at the hotel to get ready and i will be going to my parents house bright and early to get ready. In all honesty i will probably be to excited to sleep, so i will probably leaving very early to go down. Also we are having a RD closer to our place then my parents so it will just be easier.

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  • Dreamer
    Super September 2016
    Dreamer ·
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    It will be FH last night in his own home so we will be separate until the first look. We haven't lived together yet. Oh my, this should be interesting getting used to having each other under foot all the time. LOL

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  • MissMtoMrsC
    VIP November 2016
    MissMtoMrsC ·
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    We are getting married in Vegas and both said we will have breakfast in bed on our wedding day before going on our separate ways. We are not doing a first look snd figured this would be the only half hour we would get to be alone all day

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  • CMC
    Master November 2016
    CMC ·
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    We're going with the traditional route, we won't see each other after the rehearsal dinner until I'm walking down the aisle. We also won't be living together yet so I'll just go back to my parents' house and he'll be at the hotel with his family.

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  • EarlieCat
    Super December 2016
    EarlieCat ·
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    We are not spending the night together. I will be at a hotel and he will be at his parent's house. We also won't be participating in a first look.

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  • Luz434
    Super October 2016
    Luz434 ·
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    We will not spending the night before together. I'm staying at a hotel with my mother, MOH and 2 boys. FH will either stay at home or in another room with his brother whom is his BM.

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  • j19sweet
    Super November 2016
    j19sweet ·
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    We have a destination wedding so we are going to sleep together and waking up together. Not worried about luck...am worried about him partying all night in Vegas with his boys. No black eyes or bail money will be needed

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  • Becoming A Mrs!
    VIP August 2016
    Becoming A Mrs! ·
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    I haven't even thought about this. I guess this thread has given me something new think/stress about..

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  • Mrs.T_618
    VIP June 2016
    Mrs.T_618 ·
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    I spent the night at my parents' (a mile and a half away) and had breakfast with my dad and brother before hair/make-up with my mom and heading to the venue. I didn't really care one way or another, but DH thought the idea was sweet.

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  • MrsHolt
    Devoted September 2016
    MrsHolt ·
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    Do whatever feels right for you guys. We're getting married out of town and will be staying together the night before as well as getting ready together the morning of in the cottage we're staying in. I'm super excited, all the best to you!!

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  • E
    Expert October 2018
    Emily ·
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    Spending the night at my mom's and watching classic wedding movies with her and my sisters. Father of the bride, my best friends wedding, the hangover...

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