Speeches

The choice is mostly up to you and your FH. You have not mentioned his interest toward this either. But the ceremony is also for family and friends. You have invited them for that reason. If they want to say something, that should be welcomed (maybe with a DJ willing to interrupt and say it is time for dancing). At the same time, if people don't want to share anything, that is okay as well. It just seems good to keep the option available. So the flexibility to you offer is reasonable.

We did not do speeches and it was wonderful. We hated the anxiety it brought us. During the reception my mom asked me if she could say something and I said sure, so she asked the DJ and did a very quick speech and that was it. It's your wedding and you can totally do whatever makes you happy. I don't regret cutting speeches

It's totally OK to skip the speeches, although it does make it important to thank everyone for coming at some point. However, it's fine to do whatever makes you happy.

Totally up to you! You could ask anyone close to you if they'd like to say something, but it's not a big deal not to have any.

It’s very common to not have any toasts. Not everyone is comfortable with public speaking. That doesn’t mean that they don’t love you, contrary to popular belief. Some social circles would be more confused if toasts were given, by either the couple or guests. We are not having toasts because they are not done in our families, and we personally find them uncomfortable to listen to as well. Even when people say there is no pressure to skip them or it’s ok to not have them, the expectation and pressure still exists to have toasts “because it’s what people do” and not everyone is brave enough to buck tradition.


Also, there is a new trend of the couple giving a thank you toast to guests, and many of those are not comfortable with public speaking either, but they feel it is obligated or expected, when it really is not. It’s mainly because it has replaced the receiving line where guests are greeted and thanked for coming individually. Even dismissing the rows at the end of the ceremony goes by super quickly (even more so than table visits where not everyone is greeted, and doesn’t have the stage fright that is associated with toasts.
If someone does want to speak, you can always have the opportunity available at the rehearsal dinner. Whatever you decide, let your dj know what your plan is so they don’t announce something that you will not be doing.

Common , and often appreciated by guests! to not have speeches. We didn’t have any (besides us thanking everyone for coming), and it was smooth and great and lots of people commented how nice it was not to have to sit through them! 😂